Have to vent but crazy, selfish BM called up yesterday demanding that we take SS to Florida for Thanksgiving - as she put it - "it is our turn" - the kid is 20!. We are going for a couple of days to see MY mother. She is so deparate to get rid of the kid fir Thankssgiving, she said she would pay his airfare - NOW all the sudden she has money. She just does not want her SON with her boyfriends family at Thanksgiving.

So she expects us to take him with us to stay in my mother's 2 bedroom apartment in a place for seniors! My mother barely knows him.

student loan time and BM says WE need to fill it out because we make less than her and her DH. Kind of a bitchy thing to tell your kid to pass on to his father dontcha think?!?!

So i looked up this form today and under section 3 parent information:
Who is considered a parent? IN CASE OF DIVORCE OR SEPARATION, GIVE INFORMATION ABOUT THE PARENT YOU LIVED WITH MOST IN THE LAST 12 MONTHS. IF YOU DID NOT LIVE WITH ONE PARENT MORE THAN THE OTHER, GIVE INFORMATION ABOUT THE PARENT WHO PROVIDED YOU THE MOST FINANCIAL SUPPORT DURING THE LAST 12 MONTHS.

We have joint custody with my FH ex and the kids live with us. How can we get her to pay for things?
We pay her alimony and she now works and she does not pay us child support. How do we get her to help out with things? We don't want to go back to Court, we can't afford it. Any suggestions on what to say to her or what we should write in the letter?

BM has been quiet since coming upon a new person to torture (read her new boyfriend). However, whenever she sees me around town I get the one finger wave.

I have had my christmas colors purple and gold for a very long time and dh told me last night he wants that new weird green too. He even bought a box of that color! Heaven help me I don;t know what to do he looked like a kid so excited. But do you really think it will look good with purple??? Oh boy his eyes lit up so dang much I don;t want to say no but then again how will it look?

So I started going to therapy about 4 months ago.
Not to sure if this was a great decision or not.
i have always treated my SD's, twin 17 year olds, like my own. They have been in my life for 10 years and have been living with us for the last 4 full time, 100%. DH and I also have a 5 year old boy and 2 year old girl.
Well, I finally admitted to myself that I do love my Bio kids a little bit more. Great to finally say it but the guilt is killing me. Do I love my SD's any less-NO, do I always like them-NO. And that is okay. Just like my other kids.

Dh did call her tonight b/c he wanted to get it over with instead of waiting til thanksgiving. he didn't want any tension for that day. He pretty much told her that it was our choice not to go and that we enjoy being with each other on Sun. as that is the only day we really get as he works most sat. and I work nights Tue. - Sat. She seemed to be ok with that. Thanks ladies as I wouldn't have thought to tell dh to say what stepaside said.
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SS4 is really pissing me off well as some of you know i gave birth to twins a few days ago and SS is beeing a real pain for those of you whom have had C-sections you know the pain last a few days and so SS takes it to his advantage by jumping and bouncing on my stomach whenever i am nursing the twins he has been yelling at me everytime i teel him anything he yells "NO" at me and throws a fit i know jealousy is normal and mabey im wrong for saying this but somtimes i wishh it was just me DH and the twins am i wrong

SO last night, I wasnt feeling to well and decided to stay home from my sd game. She is a cheerleader, so two nights a week are dedicated to games.

Once my husband and sd get home you would have thought that some national landmark had been damaged or worse. My husband comes in shaking his head mumbleing (well loud enough I could make it out), if I make it through the sd teenage years it will be a miracle. Then he turns to me and starts to tell me the story.

Made it through another skid weekend, but just barely. Same old crap that usually happens. BIL and MIL sitting there doting on the little princess and the same tired stories of the same crap she has been up to over and over again.