Well I got the new phone set up yesterday and immediately sent notice of the new number to BM. When DH called to talk to SD last night he informed BM and told her that this was the phone to communicate with him now. This of course was met with resistance from BM, who says he is violating court order. Sorry, but court order doesn't say DH is to be available to BM 24/7! She has his home/work numbers, she can reach him in case of emergency. Then she promises she'll be good and not call/text him 50 times a day. Sorry, but we tried that before, only lasted a few days.

I came home last night. ExhauSted. Slept for 12 hours.

Woke up this morning and SS9 had his school uniform and my throw from the living room wrapped around him curled up on the bed next to me. His breath smelled of chocolate chip pancakes and his hair smells like pear shampoo. I love this kid

Okay, long story short.

This will beat all you've ever heard! My husband's ex married a tattoo shop owner, has covered herself in ink, has pictures of herself half-naked with other women on the walls in there, and takes my stepchild in there Every single day she is not here with us. We have her exactly half the time, but on days she is there, she gets picked up from school and shuttled to the tattoo shop until time to go home and to bed. She has a half-sister (from first husband) and 4 siblings from new father. Mom is pregnant right now. On food stamps, won't work (didn't before pregnant).

Wanting to see if its like this for any of you? Yesterday I HAD to text BM (thought e-mail BM does NOT have our cell numbers). Our home phone was going crazy on the caller ID it would not show us who called we couldn't couldn't get to our voicemail So at lunch when I checked I found all this was going on so I texted and ask. Well its been more then 12 hours and still nothing back from her. So we guess it wasn't her but the thing is if she would have texted my DH and he didn't answer she would send the same thing 20 times or more or even call and ask why are you not answering me.

Fear. Obligation. Guilt.

I thought this was such an eye-opening book:

Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward & Donna Frazier

http://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Blackmail-People-Obligation-Manipulate/d...

For learning how to deal with parents, in-laws, the husband's/wife's ex, the guilty parent, kids and even my own self-sabotaging thoughts as a second wife and stepparent.

I was so enjoying the break from the drama and lying and bullshit that my SD15 put us through over the summer. Unfortunately, I got a call from the counselor at her school today saying that she had been in the counseling office today feeling really upset and they felt they needed to let us know about some of the issues that were brought up.

I am a stepmom of 2 sons ages 15 and 17. I have 2 children of my own a daughter 19 and a son 16. I have been married for 11 years and blending a family for 11 years. I have full custody of my kids and my husband has 50/50 custody. The blending of the family has been fine except for the 15 year old stepson. Since day one when we began the blending of the family our relationship has not been good. He is a very jealous child and was always fighting for time alone with his dad. When moving the families in together I noticed he was taking toys from my son who is just 14 months apart.

Since we have SD5 50/50 school pictures happen to fall on our week. So all well and good, I dressed her up in a beautiful dress and did her super curly hair with some bobby pins. She looked adorable. So we get the pictures back I think they look great! Of course her hair is a little messed up since she’s um...5!! If you don’t get the pictures done right away at school duhh its not going to be a good scene. So MIL (who is still in contact with BM everyday -_-') informs me that BM hates her picture and told SD she looked terrible in them. Thanks guys.

sd called dh tonight and then bm got on the phone. dh kinda let it slip about him moving and getting a new job.