First blog post and I have something good to post

For the first time in the 7 years since we've been married, I got a stepkid free Christmas. It was freaking AWESOME! It made me really realize it's not the in-laws I mind, it's the kids!

My DH recently said something to me that to someone else - someone unlike all us on this forum who've walked this path - might think was supportive.

Prior to accompanying my DH to visit my two grown SD's 27 & 34 over Thanksgiving, I raised my concerns over the visit with our couple's therapist. After being together for 17 years we are back in counseling to attempt to address ongoing SD issues!

and BM is still pointing the finger at me for her entire dysfunctional relationship with DH, again. I am so sick of it! BM and DH have been exchanging nasty emails/texts that all started from her not talking to the skids on Christmas eve. And, of course, she continues to blame me for being the cause of their problems. Not true. Sorry we didn't anticipate that she would want to talk to skids on Christmas eve. She never did before. We also have this 'crazy' idea to respect the other parent's parenting time esp on holidays--we don't demand phone calls or complain about the lack thereof.

So, for the holidays I was gonna be nice and not bash BM and just suck it up and be cool.
Which , thank you very much, I did.

But I seriously think this woman needs help, or a straight jacket.
Holidays over, so she is fair game again!

For the past 3 days the text have been about how myBF put spyware on one of his daughters phones, which she ended up giving to her BF and getting the sd12 a new phone about a month ago.

She says now that MyBF put spyware on the phone and "he is getting punished by the law" for this.

He didnt.

Well Christmas went better than expected. The teenage SDs didn't hang all over my H like they usually do. And I didn't feel like they were watching my every move. I think they actually had a little fun. My SS11 actually spoke to me! He lives with us but had been staying with his mom for a few days. He normally acts like I'm the devil. It didn't start off to good as far as H and I are concerned. We had Christmas at my parent's house. The skids got there about 1:00. H was sitting on the couch and I was laying on the couch with my head on his lap. Well we were all debating football vs.

Okay, so I posted on here the other day about my SK's. SS3 almost 4 in particular. So, just to recap. We only have the kids one week out of the month. We live in different states. This time however, we have had them around a month. SS I believe is autistic. Just to clue in on the frustration, last night we woke up to another "poop session" SS3 had once again pulled his poop out of the diaper (cannot get him fully potty trained)and was playing with it in bed. Nice. Okay, so I'm used to it. Well, DH finally grew a set & stood up to BM.

Christmas Day..

So BM's (soon to be EX)H drops the kids off at our house at 11:00 to open presents and give them to us for the week. As soon as the door opens the fucking bullshit begins.

First of all, SS3 doesn't have his glasses on. We are trying to fix a lazy eye that he has, and the doctor gave him the glasses to see if they would help without having to go through with the surgery.

Our family Christmas at my parents was sheduled for Sunday at 11:00, a big lunch and then presents and time for my parents to hang out with the kids and watch them enjoy their gifts. My parents have always been good to my skids, and in my eyes, have never treated them any different than they treat Gibby, other than the fact that he is 7 years younger than them...

My DH for my christmas present flew in my brother from out of state. This was supposed to be my christmas with my family since I spent thanksgiving with my DH's family. We arrive christmas day at my mothers house at 2:45 to have dinner at 3:30. 3:15 the BM texts my DH saying "your son is waiting for you". So we leave (without eating by the way) get to BM's house by 4ish and the moment my DH walked in the door she's yelling at him saying their son has been waiting for him since 2:00.

Hi, I've been lurking on here for a few weeks and decided to post something about my stepfamily situation. I'm from the UK and it's great to find a site where people don't judge or criticise step parents for saying what they really think - no "well you knew what you were getting into".... "it's not their fault, you're an adult but they're only a child".... "children always come first no matter what" etc, etc.