After much screaming, yelling and discussions with my husband we decided to stop arguing with each other and to tackle this problem with my step-daughter as a team. I was very honest with him and told him how I feel that this child is doing nothing but wreaking havoc in our household, how her behavior on our family vacation was mortifying along with letting him know my concerns with exposing my son to this situation any longer. We agreed that we would talk to BM about what is going on and try to come up with a reasonable resolve.

SS 20 is a herion addict and also has bi polar disorder. Been is a variety of rehab (in and out patient) and therapy sessions for a while now. DH really believed that after his last inpatient program he was going to straighten his act out. I knew SS was using again - just told DH that I thought something was up and I was done. Do not want to see SS again. I am done. DH can do want he wants but I will not be in the same room as SS.

So, come home and see Hubby angrily mumbling to himself while he was doing laundry. (Yes, Hubby does the laundry, I'm a very lucky girl ) Anyway, I ask him what's wrong, and he just looks at me and says BM called. Great, I had been so excited to come home before this.

Scientists have found that Psycho BMs are related by DNA matches!

Telltale Signs:

Pathological Liars

Are martyrs and are very good at convincing others that they are victims

Have a flair for drama! Suicides, domestic abuse, arrests, etc.

Refuse to believe that their ex-husband/SO has really left them for healthier pastures

Are somewhat delusional in that they believe that a marriage certificate is akin to a PURCHASE RECEIPT for the husband who wishes to have a different owner
(and there are no returns)

So I haven't posted much in a while, pretty much since I made the realization that it was my marriage and not specifically the step situation that was the problem that I wanted to get out of, so I thought I'd give you guys an update.

I now see why all of you call them skids. I can see all of them as shit stains on underwear right now.

My evening started yesterday with DH attempting to convince me to allow the skids to earn their allowances back. As he is making his case, I am watching a bug crawl up the wall behind him. I removed my shoe, walked past him, smashed it and just looked at him. He shut up. I called Orkin this morning, they will be here to re-spray sometime this afternoon.

I've long been amazed at how my fiance's kids do exactly the opposite of what they are told to do. I even went so far as to look at the two boys Monday morning and say "You must honestly be stupid, because the same behavior keeps repeating itself and you have the nerve to get upset when you are punished."

So, I've decided that my "I've had enough but am going to hold back" is now turning into "I've had enough and if you step one foot out of line, get ready, here it comes."

I've been trying to figure out what we're going to do after the baby comes and during my maternity leave, on the mornings we have the stepkids. DF's schedule at work is very random in the mornings. He either works at 5:30, 6, 6:30, 7, or 7:30 with a VERY occassional 8 or 9am in there. That being said, it's VERY rare that he is ever able to be around in the mornings to help out with getting the skids ready, or that his late mornings line up with the ones when we have them.

I am soooo sick of DH and SD18. It's sickening to me and I dont think I can take anymore. Really.

I just joined this website, and i have to say i'm completely relieved!!! I never knew there were so many people that felt the same way i do! I have a step daughter that is now 11. I can honestly say that i HATE her. After being with my husband for over 5 years (married 2 and a half) and we still dont have a relationship, I just dont want to try anymore. Worse part is, my husband has full custody so shes ALWAYS with us.