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DH Finally got BackBone with Drug Addict SS 20

karenemoy's picture

SS 20 is a herion addict and also has bi polar disorder. Been is a variety of rehab (in and out patient) and therapy sessions for a while now. DH really believed that after his last inpatient program he was going to straighten his act out. I knew SS was using again - just told DH that I thought something was up and I was done. Do not want to see SS again. I am done. DH can do want he wants but I will not be in the same room as SS.

Well DH found out on Monday that SS 20 has been lying and is in total relapse got kicked out of place he was staying because he stole money and wanted to live in DH's office! DH snapped.

DH dropped him off at welfare office and told him he has to live in a shelter. Just so tired of lies felt that he was enabling him and that SS really needed to hit rock bottom.

I am relieved - did not think DH had it in him.

Of course BM freaking out - calls DH a killer and how can he be so cruel. I am thinking restraining order for BM.

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karenemoy's picture

Thank HS - I know - DH has been to AlAnon and heard the stories. SS20 had been in 4 programs - now BM wants to send to another one - cost of $65k. Better off burying the money. SS20 only goes to shut BM up - actually admitted that to his own sister who wants nothing to do with him.

ThatGirl's picture

We've got the same issue with SS19, turning 20 this month. He hasn't lived with us in over a year. Has been hit and miss at BM's and has been kicked out for good (supposedly) after stealing her ATM card. He's a heroin junkie, too.

Luckily, SO says he will not do a thing for the boy and that he isn't welcome in our home. We didn't have him over for the holidays, but then again, he didn't bother to call until the day after Christmas. And that was to find out if we had a card from his Grandpa who always give them $20, but this time his card was empty as even Grandpa doesn't want to contribute to his behavior.

I keep waiting for the day the boy gets arrested, then maybe he'll be willing to seek some help. As it stands right now, he won't do anything. He did, however, tell his little brother a lie about being in a rehab knowing that it would get around to us and his mother (who he was trying to con into letting him move back in). He's got a pregnant on-again/off-again gf. It'll be interesting to see what happens when the baby is born. It's like waiting for a bomb to drop.