Disclaimer.... I am not the jealous wife! Please know that right off the bat!

Sometimes I feel though that the ex is talked to and treated better than the way I get treated.

Here is the background of the story.....Yesterday morning my husband woke up with his ear hurting him. We had some drops but they were not what he really wanted. His daughter, who was with us this weekend and is 13 years of age, has major ear troubles.

Some of this is in my bio - and most of the abbreviation I am picking up but still somewhat confused.

Well not too often do we have a bad weekend but I have to tel you this one was one of those.

Last time we had SD5 was last Monday night. She seemed fine, but she told us that BM thinks she is allergic to their pet rat because she keeps getting puffy eyes when she wakes up. I asked her if she has been crying at night before sleep becuase I know sometimes that makes your eyes puffy the next day, and she said no, so we just kind of let it go.

Well low and behold-I knew I had a good ss underneath! I was ready for a fight this morning when I told him I was coming to the school to pick up his report card(so it doesn't get lost in his bm car again) and he didn't even frown. He said 'Ok, maybe I will see you there.' I think I almost peed myself. I also took my sd to get her ears pierced yesterday. She didn't even flinch a bit! I couldn't believe it. But then I could literally watch the color drain from her face after it was done! She is so cute! Sometimes I need things like to remind me how much I love them!

Princess called all in tears tonight. Saying she doesn't know why people don't trust her and why everyone at college says she's two-faced. "I'm always so nice to people, and I'm honest, and..."

"Are you kidding me?" I yelled into the phone. (She got busted by me and her dad on January 7 in a major lie.) I told her that she was 18 and in college now, so it was time for me to tell her some truths, and I wasn't going to listen to her bulls#$@ anymore.

So we had skids for the weekend and we were over at bf's parents for the day. Well bm calls and said that she wants us to drop skids to her at 8pm cause her and her bf are going out to dinner. Well bf and I keep sd4 sunday nights cause she has preschool monday morning. Well sd4 has been sick all week and weekend, and we wanted her in bed early due to the fact she has to be up early for school. Well we get to bm's and I wanted sd4 to stay in the car (seeing as how she was asleep and its 5 degrees out) nope.. In she runs to see bm.

Well, as much help as this site usually is, you have to admit it can be depressing. The overall attitude for most of us is that this particular calling in life kinda stinks! As far as skids are concerned, we are just unappreciated, disrespected, taken-for-granted, outsiders whose only fault is that we fell in love with their (divorced, socially available) parent. Sorry!!

So for those of you who were reading my blog from last night- today wasn't much better. MY SS13 was in a foul mood all day. We were going to go bowling to get out of the house and do something but he moaned and groaned that he wasn't in the mood to go out. So we basically stayed inside all day for the most part. He is so strange at 13, no friends, no interest to speak of.. nothing. He just sat in the recliner in the living room literately all day long and either played his hand held video games or watched tv.

I am not a biological parent - I have only been a step parent for 9 years. I have loved 2 wonderful step sons for several years. But now, the oldest SS17 has turned into a manipulative, lying, stealing, teenager. He started spending more time with his BM and his attitude has turned horrible. I am sure deep down, the boy DH and I raised is still there, but it is buried down real deep. He is being manipulated by his BM.