I am so sick of the Skid's BM lately. They live with us full-time along with my 3 kids. A few months ago she complained to their dad about what we provide them for school lunches, (which was wrong, the kids misinformed her), yet 9 out of 10 times they come back from spending the weekend with her having not had dinner that night, and they get home around 8:30-9pm! She's got some nerve! Twice now SD has gotten hurt on BM's weekend and BM didn't bring her to be checked out.

Last night went to the local college to check out signing up for some summer classes. Then I am going to sign up for a gym close to where I work. My bio son has been cleaning up the house and we are both trying to be "unavailable" as much as possible now. We are not there to criticize when DH gets defensive or frustrated with SS7.

How am I supposed to tolerate the thousands of e-mails, unnecessary texts and phone calls that my bf gets from his ex? Yes, they're usually regarding my stepdaughter BUT it's so unnecessary. It's usually complete bs, or just a way to insult me, our relationship. She puts things in my stepdaughters head and I feel like she attempts to fill his head with ideas as well. What the hell am I supposed to do to deal with this. When I bring it up, he gets defensive and says that I obsess over it. He thinks the best bet would be to minimize my knowledge of all of this. What do you think?

I know some of you know the back story on this but...my SO is legally separated from BM, has been trying to divorce her for 2 years etc she's dragged the whole thing out. Anyway, in the agreement for legal separation, my SO was expected to pay the mortgage on the house where BM lives (it's in his name) plus a good amount in temporary alimony. BM was to pay all utility bills and her own bills whatever she has. My SO made the mistake of continuing to pay the bills because she never changed them over to her name.

Well, now it looks like we are the custodial parents. For those who didn’t read my last post, BM has been having some health problems, and we aren’t comfortable leaving SS5 alone with her anymore. DH went to BM and said that we want primary custody, at least until she can get her health in order (and preferably find a way to support herself).

Apparently it was a super awkward conversation as she didn’t feel well enough to go to Starbucks, so they had this conversation in her parent’s house where she lives, with her dad glaring at my DH the whole time.

OMG..so after the last situation w/BM and her lesbian lover the SD told us they "broke up"...supposedly they were moving in together, etc...her family pretty much disowned her so I don't know if she's putting an act or not while she tries to buy her own house, more of a 'decoy'...BUT the SD tells my bf yesterday that BM is seeing this new guy, and he seemed ok and they've been hanging out lately.

Of pepper spray and police being called.

Saw the obviously biodad-less BM and her snarky kid RULES her with an iron fist.

Reminds me of the permissive BMS and entitled skids who often turn violent.

http://www.9news.com/dontmiss/191574/630/Police-use-pepper-spray-on-seco...

The kid even says with a smirk on his face "yeah I'll probably do it again"

Fact: Disengaging is the best thing since sliced bread. Here are some things I have stopped doing with regard to H and SS11.

Laundry - SS likes to put the clean, neatly-folded clothes I take the time to wash on the floor, mixed in with dirty clothes. As of yesterday, he's now washing his own clothes. I will advise him along the way (the little Amelia Bedelia brained creature would probably put the entire bottle of detergent in and ruin my frontloader), but I'm not touching anything.

DH asks me yesterday - can you take off work 1/2 hour early to pick up SD16, she had detention. (BM is on-call for work, and DH is on disability and unable to climb stairs.) I agree.

Text SD16 - where are you?

HER: School 10.

Didn't dawn on me that this is entirely in the OPPOSITE direction of her high school, it's an elementary school kids hang out at.

ME: Meet me at Exxon (near our house, as she was told earlier to start walking).

HER: Can you meet me 1/2 way?

I've heard horror stories in the past about people's ex's. When my ex and I divorced, I swore we wouldn't (or at least I wouldn't) be that way. We have been divorced for years and get along great. Heck, he and my new husband sit together at my daughter's games. BUT....it never occurred to me that getting remarried meant dealing with my new husbands's EX...both Ex's! One's actually diagnosed crazy, and the other, well,...should be. Does it ever stop????