I've always known that I wanted children, but I never fantasized about being married in the same way. I never planned my dream wedding, never spent much imagination on a husband figure. I always just assumed I'd somehow have kids, even if a father wasn't in the picture.

But when you love someone, you get married, right? I thought that with my ex-fiance. I still think it when I look at FDH and I know that despite his divorce, FDH still very much wants to be married and have more children. But lately, I've been thinking that we could maybe have a baby before getting married.

We knew this was going to happen. This is the 10th move for the kids in 4 years. Of course she has a new baby daddy and she left him...she wants that money. I guess she is going to get it. She won't even have to work now. She's a good role model for all three kids...GREAT. And that means the oldest child that I already want to kick in the butt when she comes around is going to be in an even more horrid rotten mood. This is JUST great.

My SS11 came home tonight and told me that he had won his baseball game. I didn't even know he had a game. I told him good job but when was your game? He said it was on Monday and then he told me that him mom didn't want me to go. I just don't understand why she has to act like that in front of my SS11. It just gives him more reason to not like me or even listen to me. How can I ever bond with him if she is always saying comments to him that are negative. Shouldn't she just be happy that there is someone else that loves and supports him. I just don't get it.

Just wondering, if this upsets anyone as much as it upsets me. My skids arent terrors and ever nasty to me, but they really just dont seem to care about me at all. They say Please and Thank you. Yes they can be brats sometimes they are 8 & 11.

They just dont want to bond or seem to care about me at all. They arent affectionate kids at all, they dont even hug grandparents or extended family. i come from a very affectionate family and very close and we express how we feel. so for me i take it personally and feel rejected.

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Not younger ones, but teens? What I mean is has anyone ever just called them out in their behavior and actions? Sometimes I want to but I bite my tongue. I just wondered if anyone has ever done it and what te outcome was.

Since SD20 threw her fit after we caught her stealing in January and she filled my phone with her hate texts and bullshit, I blocked her, BM, BM's BF, and SD's husband from my phone, my husband's and my daughters. This is my plan and I pay the bill for all 3 phones. I want no more texts or calls from any of them and I will not remeove the block. They cannot call or text. DH has never asked me to remove his block for he contacts the bitch on his work phone.

Hmmm, so I think my SS11 lied to me....again. He was hounding my DH last night for some money to buy a toy from a friend. I heard DH tell him to basically stop hounding him. This morning, SS11 wakes up my DD12 early (before her alarm went off) begging her for the money, offering to sell her crap from his room etc. No deal was struck there either. This afternoon, SS11 comes home from school, asks to go to said friend's house to "get something" and returns with the toy. So naturally, I asked where he got the money from.

I had started taking SS5 to the gym with me so he could spend time in the kids club while I work out, and DH could have a break. He really enjoys it and asks me as soon as I get home “Can we go to the gym?” every day.

On Monday I went to pick him up and the girls told me that he had been hitting! And not only that, but he deliberately threw a basketball into a little girl’s face and then screamed for a long time after they asked him to apologize.

I get that BM is mad at BF and I (mostly me i think). I may not understand why exactly. she is entitled to her feelings after all but can she do what she is doing?