i have a stepson who has been lieing for 25 years about things about me and my husband has believed him always and i get the blunt of the hurt by my husband believing in what i am trying to say, i left because of this and went into a safehouse because i could not handle all the yelling and blambing that i was the one destroying our marriage, for years i just fell victim of my stepchild and let him control everything so we could keep our marriage. i was told that if i didnt "let it go" that our marriage would be done and i have other kids by him.

I don't know what to do, I am so lost.
I am twenty years old, SS2, SO22.
I just realized that I am SOOO not ready for kids, especially not for the terrible twos and being one of the many people that pours their love out to SS2 but being the only one who is punished with hitting, biting, pinching, yelling, and no affection.
I love SO22 very VERY much, he is so wonderful to me, and I do believe that he is worth it, I just don't believe that I should be so deeply invested and surrounded by this craziness....a;sjkdf

Do you ever wonder how you got to the place you are at? What events led up to this moment in time? What choices paved the path that you are travelling on now? I have been contemplating these engima's more and more.....and more lately.

Last night DH tells me that BM's " fiance" (They have been together for 5 years engaged for 4 & will not get married for at least 9 more years ) had sent SS13 a picture of Tweety Bird smoking a joint to his phone. WTF is wrong with this idiot. We have never been really impressed with him before but this kind of clinches it. I asked Dh what he was going to do, he had SS erase it & explained why it was inappropriate. He is not going to say anything to BM about it. He figures she would just tell SS not to share things with Dh rather than admitting that he great catch is an idiot.

Next Friday GG will be having a counseling session with Brainiac there (SS14). Brainiac hasn't been at the house for almost 3 years now. No gifts have been exchanged for holidays, etc. Just a highly scripted note by the Behemoth every couple of months or so basically asking for GG's non-parental status babysitting services to be reinstituted for the Behemoth's sake (she rarely goes anywhere with her children UNLESS it can be SEEN by others she KNOWS)

This should be good. Break out the popcorn.

Sorry, I would post but it's in Spanish. As we have all said here, it seems that most of the time the major issues occur with the stepmoms, not stepdads...well, I will post and translate what this idiot says about how "she made it work" and the counselor AGREES!!!

"My husband began to love my children before we married. However, when we married, my MOTHER KEPT MY 3 CHILDREN with her for SIX months. This gave US the opportunity to be a COUPLE FIRST. But after the 6 mos, my husband told my mother that we could take them home because he felt ready for them to be in our home".

I am so pissed off right now, I could explode. On Tuesday, I picked sd16 up from cheer practice and came home to start supper. DH was home from work when we got here. SD16 asks "can I go tan after supper?" DH looks at me and says "what do you think?" I said "I don't care, but she can't take your truck because of the problems you're having with the front end on it. So, she will have to take my van." (Which I just got the van from my parents 2 weeks ago, as a gift. Because my car broke down in Dec when DH was on his way home from dropping sd16 off at the airport.

So DH has grown SD from his marriage and biological 7 yr old son. After divorce had a gf and they have a 4 yr old. The 4 yr old lives with the mom and her husband and her son who is the same age as DHs son.

Now DH is all about his son. His daughter lives in another state and is supported by another man. When we first met he gave me this sob story but now it doesn't add up. I think the 4 yr olds BM is a good parent and he has to answer for his lack of parenting with her. It is so much easier with his son who's BM is a nut job. Still, it's wrong.

Lots of stuff going on in my life-haven't been able to blog. Here's another issue we have (may be long):

OK recently DH has been showing signs of attempting to correct his unruly 7 year old who has been able to run undisciplined for years.

The thing that gets me though is SS called kissing DH's butt because he wanted a new video game (DH buys them all the time for SS no matter how horrible he acts out). DH told him to stop "brown-nosing" jokingly. So one could surmise form this that DH recognizes SS's manipulative behavior then???