How am I supposed to tolerate the thousands of e-mails, unnecessary texts and phone calls that my bf gets from his ex? Yes, they're usually regarding my stepdaughter BUT it's so unnecessary. It's usually complete bs, or just a way to insult me, our relationship. She puts things in my stepdaughters head and I feel like she attempts to fill his head with ideas as well. What the hell am I supposed to do to deal with this. When I bring it up, he gets defensive and says that I obsess over it. He thinks the best bet would be to minimize my knowledge of all of this. What do you think?