YSD26 is still ligering in the area, housesitting. DH spent a day out with her. I did not ask quesitons. For example,  "Was she a complete brat?" I don't need to know. And if they had a nice time, I don't need to know that either. I don't want to hear it. I know that I won't get the real story anyway because DH wears his rose colored glasses, most of the time, until he has had enough and finally reaches a breaking point. 

Looking at life right now, I feel truly blessed. My health issues have healed, I have a home I love, my parents are with me, my family is healthy and doing well, I now see who my friends are (and arent). Ive learned some valuable lessons. Ive learned about my spouse and his very dark side that I didnt "see" before. 

However there are a few things that I would take out of this life. A jealous and badgering spouse, who wakes me up on my birthday at 6 am pacific time "you are on 2 dating sites, I know you are hooking up!!"

DH had way too many beers yesterday and was talking up a storm.  I kind of had things figured out about what transpired.

BM became unblocked because she was with SD's and sending him texts and he wasn't responding.  SD's called him at work and asked if BM was blocked because "they" were trying to send him something.  Because SD's were involved he unblocked her with SD walking him through how to do it, although I know that he knows how to do this.  
 

Typically this means that you are "officially a Couple".

In my case, today, my husband posted on Facebook that he is "letting me go" using my name and everything, as a caption to a post of our wedding photo.

After a few weeks of posting tik toks and memes about cheating and lies and letting go.

Its been a rough month.

Ive been feeling sadness, regret, relief, disbelief, fear, anger all in an endless rotation.

Im no longer going to be a stepmonster.

Im no longer going to have to deal with all that step life has to offer.

DW's family does a camping trip every two years. Everyone comes. Except this time.

Odds are that SIL purposely scheduled it at a time when neither BIL1 or BIL2 and theri families could come.  Ostensibly this was the biennial camping trip combined with SIL's eldest's HS graduation trip.

Hello Steppers!

Its been awhile and happy to say that things are quite peaceful in our household.  Ugh - did I just jinx myself?

SS22 SBT 23 is still living with his GF and her parents.  She is currently in college for her masters and seeing how driven she is, SS22 decided to go back to college and is currently is his first semester.  Part time of course since he has to have a full time job to pay the rent and bills.  If you would have asked me 3 years ago, I could have sworn he would just have taken off and never heard from again.

SS13 went home one week ago today. BM never sent the email, blowing up on DH for SS' accusations. Following the visit, DH and I had a long conversation about what our future with SS is heading towards and ways we can reduce his impact in our home, while raising our kids away from that toxicity. 

I usually rant and rave about SD63 and I probably will again but today, Im thankful for her.

My mom102 passed away Monday and was buried today. While I notified everyone else, I hesitated to contact SD because 1) I avoid her and 2) I didn't feel like dealing with any drama.  But when I contacted her, she responded kindly and said she wanted to come to the visitation.  I thougjt, "As  if" because she's usually a no-show or is late.  But, once DH87 knew I was in contact with her, he began to elaborate plans.

My partner has three adult daughters, all in their 30's. Long, long, long story short, he and I have been together for 12 years, their mother passed away a year before he started dating me, and the daughters have completely refused to accepted our union. I am quite a bit younger than him, but have been nothing but a committed partner to him, and fully intend to stay with him for life. There is the eldest daughter, and two younger twins.

DH has asked BM many times for months if she had plans to have SS8 over the summer (she lives across the country, moved even further away than she was before 2 weeks ago). BM claimed she wasn't sure if she would have him because she was moving, then it was because they were renovating a part of the house and it wouldn't be "fun" for him, and then she blamed the cost of travel of the trial MIL initiated on DH if BM had to appear in our state.