Hi, all:

Hope everyone's doing well today! I need some opinions!

I wrote last week about my SS's mother bringing up inappropriate/unnecessary memories to my finace about their relationship. I've seen her twice since she upset me and I feel like my coldness is showing.

I have been busy the past few days just trying to "maintain" things in the household. I finished off the taxes but had to keep going back to check the status of the etaxes to check for the acceptance which I completed this morning. My DH is receiving harassing emails from his ex that she hasn't received this month's suppt even though it always gets mailed regularly. We started sending her money orders because she was so nasty about saying she didn't get the checks. So, now I have to get a tracer done on the money order.

I am fairly determined to have a good weekend so weather permitting, by grace it will happen. I finished and efiled taxes today and just will run an errand to purchase a bathing suit. The weather should be up in the 90's this weekend so I am looking forward to going swimming for awhile and also taking me dogs to play in the water. I bought 2 kiddie wading pools for the dogs to play and lay in so they could cool off. Seems like a lot of people here in this region have been doing the same.

Well, things have calmed down somewhat with my daughter. I think she knows what she did with the garbage cans, recycle bin and mat were childish and that she was only trying to cause conflict between my boyfriend and I. She has been on her best behavior after I told her that I wasn't going to be forced to make a choice between her and my boyfriend, there is no choice and I love them both and her and my boyfriend's daughter are not going to break us up - we're in it for the long haul.

Hi All,

Has anyone else had to try to love a child who looks so much like his mother that you can't see him as anything but a reminder of your husband's baggage? Thankfully, my little SS is beginning to look more like his daddy, but for a long time, the kid was a frightening spitting image of his mother and I actually resented him for it. I resented a child for something he couldn't help! WHAT was wrong with me?! I guess I really didn't like what he represented. Will anybody else out there please let me know if you've experienced anything like that? Thanks!

Well, our wedding is just five weeks away and my darling's ex-wife has started to pull some punches. She and I have always gotten along well and I've appreciated that because I know how awful it can be. We've always told each other how much we appreciate each other's parenting styles and I've always been sincere about it. I've never feared that she might want my fiance back--she was the one to initiate their separation and divorce--but it seems that, as our wedding gets closer, she's actually having a hard time with my guy moving on and being happy without her.

Half the week is over already and I have really been on a roller coaster here at home. With any luck, my husband will get his work situation sorted out, and quit bringing his attitude and problems home. Today, I went back to the doctor's about the problem with my ankle collapsing and they started blood testing because they are thinking not only is the problem orthopedic--with the ankle--but also some kind of joing connective tissue disease that is affecting my joints--in particular my both my ankles and wrists which are swollen up as well.

Well, I can't seem to get on an even pace with my spouse. He has been nearly impossible to deal with, live with, or be around with. It's like walking on eggshells. He hears things that aren't even said, and blows up for no reason. Now it is getting the only peace I have is when he is at work. I can't have an opinion about anything or it sets him off on another of his immature temper tirades. The person who steps out the door and into the office are two different people. And the stresses and unhappiness he feels at the office he brings home and directs at me.

say that they wish YOU were their Mother, instead?

This hasn’t happened yet, and I hope it never does! But something that happened over the weekend got me thinking about how I would handle this. My step kids could easily be mistaken for my bios. They have both always been quick to point out to strangers that I’m not their Mother if the topic comes up.