How does she get away with talking to him like that?
SD14 TEXTS DH last night around 10:45 p.m. from her room to inform him that the color guard captain had just texted her and told her that they had practice this morning. DH texted back for SD14 to come and talk to him about it. Needless to say, DH was not happy about getting informed at nearly 11:00 p.m. at night that SD14 had to be somewhere 8 hours later, and he expressed that he was really tired of some 15-year-old (aka the color guard captain) running the show. SD14 gets a huge attitude, because apparently now she and the color guard captain are best buds, and SD14 doesn't like DH talking about her that way! DH then asks her if she texted the captain back yet to verify that she had received the message. SD14 then goes into super attitude mode!! "Well, I couldn't, because by the time I could respond back to her, my phone was on lock down! I don't know why you still have my phone on lockdown after 11:00 p.m. It should be taken off!!" DH explained that it was on lockdown because SD14 will be on the phone all night instead of sleeping if it weren't! SD14 then asserted again very rudely that it needed to be taken off of lockdown...period!
This led into about 5 minutes of DH yelling at her about who was the parent and who was the child, the whole time SD14 just standing there with her arms crossed rolling her eyes!
Then, the conversation got back to color guard. DH told SD14 that she needed to tell the coach (who is an adult hired by the band director to work part time...the guy also works as a color guard coach at another high school) that this was unacceptable...and if she had to, she needed to tell the band director that her parents would prefer email notifications when plans changed...not last minute texts from one of the girls. SD14 got into attitude mode again and told DH that she couldn't do that, that it would do no good, that the coach wants all messages to go through the captain to the girls. DH then exclaims, "Then he is an idiot!" SD14 then went on SUPER DUPER attitude mode telling DH he shouldn't say that about him...that offends her...he is her coach...etc. So, you respect your coach more than your parent? Why? Because your coach stands you up as the star of his show? Seriously...the coach is very much a part of the problem with SD14's attitude about her color guard team! As I mentioned, SD14 is always putting the other girls down saying they shouldn't even be in guard because they don't know how to do anything! That isn't what I witnessed this past Saturday at the show...I thought the girls did a wonderful job!!! I saw way, way worse performances at that competition in the novice category, which SD14's guard performs in. SD14 is NOT holding that team up, as much as she would like to believe. SD14 does have some talent...I'll give her that...but she is not the only one on that team who does! All the girls did an exceptional job in their dance and twirling! But SD14, the captain, and the coach are always putting these other girls down!
During parts of the conversation, SD14 seemed to be stumbling a bit...like she wasn't being honest. DH brought up that a schedule was sent home for practices and such, but that schedule is never followed. SD14 claimed it was because most of the girls can't ever show up, she she and the captain just work on moves together. DH brought up that the paper said very specifically, "Practice is mandatory! If you miss a practice, you lose your spot in the show." and that SD14 was very specific early on that she MUST be at every practice, and now she is indicating that this isn't the case, because all the other girls still have their spots in the show! Again, she was stumbling around...changing her story back and forth about actually being at any kind of practice...be it with the other girls or just her and the captain or not having any practice. So what is she really doing if there isn't practice, because the way she made it sound, there truly have hardly been any practices outside of the normal class period, because the other girls never show up!
Truthfully, if SD14 were my child, and she talked to me like that last night, that would have been the end of guard! If that is the kind of person guard is turning her into, then she doesn't need to be in it...period! Of course, it wouldn't have gotten this far, as guard would have been a thing of the past right after her little week of fun during winter break, when she was smoking pot and sneaking alcohol!
Oh, and the "rules" about eating have already gone to the wayside. SD14 didn't eat breakfast this morning, though she had plenty of time. That was one of the rules...she had to eat breakfast every day! DH just ignored this fact and took her on to school anyway!