Your DH needs to tell her to resign. She can't be bothered to let him know about things,then she doesn't get to participate.

I am laughing out loud at this. Sorry but it is so close to what we go through with skids. They never tell DH anything until the last minute and he believes them when they say they just found out. I've tried to tell him for a couple years that these things don't work that way. They are all planned and it's the kids that aren't doing their part by giving him the information.

I agree with others. She should be made to quit if she can't handle the responsibility of keeping DH informed.

I did guard...winter guard...drum corps...the lot of it, indoor outdoor teaching... our calendars were done and complete with dates and times before the season started, because your DH is right - you need to apply and put forth fees for shows and competitions, especially to make sure you have enough to compete in any form of championships, plus if there's school bus transportation! My parents treated it like a job though, once I had my schedule - we planned around it...I mean, I was in high school and if they were paying for me to do it - I was all in.

Homecoming is on the calendar when school lets out the year before. It has to be for the football schedule. This kid is disorganized as hell. She doesn't value anyone else's time and unfortunately your husband has showed her again and again, that his time is not valuable and she can tell him when she remembers. He needs to seriously make her miss one of these events and then maybe she will realize she needs to let him in on the schedule as soon as she has it.

yes, EVERYTHING school related is always scheduled a year out.

Just think how much money DH would save if he didn't let SheSloth participate? Sure, she would be sitting around moping, but doesn't she do that anyway? She is such a liar. I told my DH years ago to start teaching SD19 disappointment so she would learn that not everyone would bow to her. I'll ket you know when DH takes his head out of the sand over here!

I just got 4 bags of pumpkin seeds, so that is my snack of choice for this show tonight! LOL

Oh Can't, I am so sorry! I am pissed for you tonight.

~ Moon

Induced chaos is a very effective form of control by kids over parents. The smell test is the cure. Parents, rather than beaming at their little darlings need to get the sniffer tuned up to detect the bullshit.

My Skid did the same thing with his mom and I his sophomore year of HS. Jr. and Sr. year he spent at military boarding school. }:) }:) }:)

He was in band, both marching and concert, which were legit and he never once missed or failed to notify us of an event. Ever. He was also supposedly on the Swim Team. We never once saw a schedule, etc... he was supposedly in practice after school every day and we picked him up after practice in the evenings. He would come out of the boys locker room with his hair wet, etc.... We finally gained clarity after his EOY party when he came home with his yearbook signed by countless kids. He tossed his year book at his mom and I on the sofa and said here I am going to shower you guys can look at my year book if you want. We browsed his year book and stumbled upon a note from a girl that commented how much fun they had goofing off at school while their idiot parents thought they were in sports. That keyed a very detailed read of the yearbook. No Skid on the swim team. But, Skid was in the Anime club and few other fringe hobby clubs that he never once mentioned. When he came out of the shower we nailed his ass to the wall for a several hour nearly all night parent interrogation session. "Oh, I was on swim team I just missed the picture day and they won't list you if you are not in the team picture". BULLSHIT! The swim team had a list of several kids not shown in the picture clearly noted as not shown in the picture. Ummmmm, uhhhhh, I don't know why I am not listed on the swim team, turning red and being offended that we don't believe him, etc, etc, etc.... hours later he bursts into tears and spills the truth. "I did not want you to be mad at me. I did not want to be on swim team this year."

Combined with marginal grades and a few pissed of teachers who called us about his sleeping in class and reading novels in class and by the smoking gun friend comment in his yearbook "I had so much fun with you plotting how to kill Mrs. XYZLMNOP this year. Maybe we can do it next year! Lol! Have a great summer." we followed through on the Military School option. I picked up the telephone and told him I was calling the police to deal with the killing the teacher bullshit. He broke down in tears and swore up and down that it was a joke and they were just kidding, blah, blah, blah...... We probably should have called 911 and reported the skid and his young lady friend for conspiring to kill teacher. But, I put the phone down and his mom and I informed him that no longer was military school just a discussion.

He had to tell all of his band friends when we were all on the Hawaii summer band trip that we had already paid for. We made him tell them exactly why he was going to military school rather than allowing him to just play the "my mom and dad are sending me to military school" victim card.

That began the transition of the Skid from a snarky manipulating liar to a very pleasant and successful young man of character.

Hopefully DH will keep his foot firmly up the manipulating little liar's ass for the duration. If he wants to outsource the kid ass kicking I would be happy to send you the info on top quality military schools some that are very affordable. }:)

Any on the East Coast for SD13? She lies all of the time.......