Ugh. This is so frustrating as my SKs do the same thing with their kids...some blatant guilt bombing...some emotional blackmail, whatever it takes. Awful.

The Girhippo did guilt bombing when Chef finally woke up and realized he was being walked on. Despicable!

Wow. These adult skids are something else. I just don't understand the part where you treat people like they don't matter to you and then when they get the hint, the skids try to lure them back in.

The way I feel about this is the same way I feel about my house: Either to are in or you are out but you will not keep opening my door and letting my or out.

Gkids are ammunition, it appears in some cases. I attended a function only under the condition we did not sit with them, so we sat elsewhere (which was a break through for me).

Guess what, one of them sent the Gkid over to our table--even so. Oh, and this is not even a bio grandkid of any kind, it is an ex step child's kid (I know it is crazy insane).

NowI/we are sitting away from these people who adore me so lol, I get up to get something for my husband at the buffet (there alone and first), and one adult ex skid makes a b-line to me at the buffet line asking me if I like the_______. I said yes, and walked away. Now you would think that if somebody is purposefully not sitting with you to leave them alone (but that will never be the case here).

They never stop, even if you stop. The goal is clearly not him, it is about controlling-- you.

Oh yeah... they want nothing to do with daddy until daddy gives them a taste of their own medicine.

First year I was with DH he saw OSD a total of 15 minutes, even though he would invite her to things, etc. Then there was a big falling out between me and OSD (even though I had only seen her 15 minutes total but that is another story) and then all of the sudden she misses her dad, has a special relationship with her dad, is daddy's little girl, etc. I'm mean and keeping daddy from her. (not true) Ummm where have you been for the past year?

It's like you don't know what you got until it's gone. Then these skids want to push their way back in.

Using children as pawns does not work at our house I am dead serious. My response might be,

'Thanks for the pic SURE looks like he /she may enjoy it. Have a GREAT weekend and have fun.

I believe that OSD36 is a narcissistic MOTY, and that to her, her children are an extension of her and should be worshipped accordingly. She is unlike anyone I've ever met, entitled to the nth degree, can't cope with societal rules, can't get along with people, but is obsessed with kids.

OSD used her dad and me shamelessly after we moved closer. We were allowed full access to the gskids, but had to pay for the privilege. This is the woman who tricked me into hosting 70+ people for gdaughter's eighth birthday when she had NO MONEY. We were constantly hit up for $$, groceries, sport fees, clothes, field trips, etc for 6 gkids (son in law had 4, OSD has two). The kids were coached to hit us up for $$, too. The more we gave, the more she wanted - until the day I called OSD out in some bad behavior. All communication with the gskids was cut off that day, and we had zero contact with OSD from that point.

When mental YSD got knocked up a year or so later, OSD decided to get involved. And by get involved, I mean take over completely. OSD started texting DH "exciting news" about the pregnancy, the gender of the baby, and later, photos of the baby (named after OSD). I don't know if these texts were intended to lure, taunt, or inform, but DH ignored them all. By that point there was no way we were going to get sucked into becoming attached to another weapon I'd mass destruction.

Yes the gkids. My ex dil was a work of art and she used my gkids a manipulation device. The funniest thing is that she and my ds used to live with me. When she was upset with me because I did not cave in to her demands. She would walk in the house and tell the little toddlers not to look at me and to go to their bedroom quickly. Of course once she told to the kids not to look at me, they did.

The next step for your sd is to call your dh and invite only him to the games.

In the past few days I've read so many posts, here is 1 more issue I relate to, I can't completely blame my DH's dtr for holding him hostage emotionally, dtr is 36, kids (9 & 3) live in another state, my DH encourages his dtr to send him pictures to his cell of everything going on in her & kids lives. If she buys a bedspread she sends a picture, if she gets a new hairdo she sends a picture, if she's eating, a picture of that, every sunday pictures of the 2 kids. Occasionally he might show me a picture but not often. I use to feel hurt, but now I feel my DH is pathetic, I feel he needs this type of interaction since he can't be with them physically as often as he would like & since he helps her financially, I guess this is her way of thanking him. When he went to visit them 2yrs ago I didn't go. When he goes to visit this year, he will go alone again.