I don't day too much about DH's
Oldest child, 26 yo mtf trans. They've had a strained relationship for years because of personality clashes and polar opposite politics, but recently SK26 has been placed into a psychiatric facility due to social media posting (I'm blocked and can't see it) about sympathizing with a mass shooter. The news covered it locally and DH is taking it all very hard...
They were estranged for about 2 years and have since worked on an amicable relationship, trying to leave sensitive subjects out of their conversations. But SK26 never really reached out with care or concern about DH, despite DH trying, showing concern and generally just trying to be part of SK26's life.
In my opinion, SK26 is an overgrown child, acting entitled and having extreme tantrums because of being dissatisfied with the world. But my DH is falling apart. He's functioning, but in tears at home, silent through dinner, angry at the situation. I feel locked out right now and have no clue how what I'm supposed to do or how to react.
I know it's not my problem to fix, not that I could anyway, but I'm feeling very resentful of SK26 and also towards DH right now. He's focused on the negative when there are a lot of positives in life.
I was angry at SK26 years ago when the trans announcement was made because of the way it was done and the way immediate acceptance was demanded by SK26 with no regard for the feelings of anyone else or how this impacted the rest of the family. I don't in the least believe that SK26 is less valuable as a person and deserves humane treatment, but SK26 was demanding what they were not willing to also give.
I don't know what to do right now, other than sit back and watch the ship sink.