Relating and communicating with DH
While he's going through a lot with his bios. Oldest SK26 is inpatient by court order for another couple of weeks (I mentioned the circumstances in another post, but this skid is trans mtf and made a Facebook post about sympathizing with the Nashville shooter...definitely has mental health issues), SD21's slacker H was just re-arrested (was out on bond for other charges) and he's always been concerned for her because they have 2 little ones, one a newborn and no stability/ employment/ prospects.
My take on this is that both of skids are adults making crap choices in life and SD seems to expect other people to support her and her kids. They are over 4 hours from us, so she's not in my home, but DH is obsessed. I completely understand he's worried and wishes for a better situation, but it's to the point it's all he can focus on.
I feel like since SD got pregnant 3 years ago my life has been hijacked. Actually, it was before that...when she ran off with the slime that became slacker H.
Is there away to start a discussion with tact that can help address that his bios and grands aren't the sun his life should orbit around?