As if I haven't had enough lately
DH sprang something else on me.
Oldest skid26 (m to f trans) that was actually estranged from DH several years ago for about 2 years, may relocate to live with us for a bit.
Skidult26 has some issues and lost a job (literally lost it within days of getting the position) because of a social media post made a while back that talked about sympathizing with the Nashville mass un-aliver. Well, because of the job loss, DH offered to have Skidult26 come live with us and look for a job in our area. On one hand, I'm a little offended that we didn't discuss it first, though, but if my adult bio was having a hard time, I'd expect the same offer could be made.
I did tell DH that skidult's multiple pets weren't welcome because skidult doesn't care for them properly and I am not doing it nor am I having my home damaged by them. We've seen skidult leave BM's home for extended periods of time and expect BM to do pet care, leaving animals to destroy their room and that's not happening at my house. DH agreed with me on that.
Skidult26 does have an undergrad degree and should be able to find a job here that pays well enough to move out to an apartment within 4-5 months IF skidult saves money. I don't know much about skidult's money management skills, but they seem to have a good work ethic, and is intelligent (though lacking a bit in common sense).
We live in a fairly big city, so there will be a big adjustment for skidult, as they are very much used to being in a small town and doesn't have a lot of driving experience, so that will be a challenge.
I'm ok with giving skidult a chance, but it will be tough for me, but it will still be hard and I'm not feeling super secure in my marriage, so that plays a part, too.
My bottom line is that I don't want to be a b!tch or a pushover. I keep looking for happy middle ground, but dang if it's not hard to find....