SD16 pre-failure to launch
SD16 has always been the most “normal” one out of the 3 skids (SD21, SD16, SS15). SD21 was diagnosed ODD as a kid and she was a HANDFUL. She was the main reason I wouldn’t cohabitate with FDH and waited until she launched. I can tolerate SD21 in small doses, she has gotten much better as she grew up.
SS15 is high-functioning autistic. He has been doing much better in school and at home recently.
I was hoping that the pouty, morose, lazy, slug teenagery thing with SD16 was just a phase, but now…….there is a very REAL possibility of failing to launch. Therefore, evil SM has to get involved! If nothing else, to make sure she is OUT of the house or in school/trade after high school.
A little over a year ago, we find out that SD16 is “almost 100% sure she is transgender”. Now, this is NOT a forum on LGBT issues, any such comments will be deleted. FDH and I are open people and we have friendships and family members that are LGBT and we have been nothing but kind, loving and supportive. SD16 knows this, and I’ve warned her not to try that “she’s not accepted at home” crap just because we aren’t going along with this.
We are almost 100% sure that she is NOT transgender. Up until a couple of years ago, SD16 was the girliest girl and genuinely a happy person. She loved dresses and high-heels, makeup, hair dos, Barbies and pink cowgirl boots, the whole bit. Then last spring, the school contacts FDH about something innocuous and says “Aaron” blah blah blah. FDH says “are you sure you have the right student? My daughter is SD16.” School says, “Oh, well, that’s the name she wants to be called”
FDH texts SD16 and she responds with being almost 100% sure she’s trans. She refuses to go to counseling, refuses to talk about it. I told her that being uncertain of who you are, not wanting to wear dresses or skirts or wear makeup doesn’t mean she’s trans. Also, being a lazy SLUG doesn’t mean your trans either. She should be concentrating on school and her activities, get a frickin drivers license already, and start thinking about her plans after high school. For crying out loud, she still carries her binky and sucks her thumb around the house. She is very immature for her age and sure as shit not mentally/emotionally capable of making such a huge life decision suddenly……….OH! I’m a boy!!!
I totally blame society, social media, and yes, even the schools. All this LGBT stuff is very IN YOUR FACE all the time and it’s “cool” to be bi/trans/neutral or whatever the phrase of the day is. She belonged to an LGBT club at school and she’s not even mature enough to tell us or say the name of the club EVER. It’s just “club” day. We found out about it and just shrugged. I think she was disappointed that we didn’t fuss about it. Can’t complain to the “club” about your bigoted parents when, well, they’re NOT.
It’s sad when gay rights have FINALLY been won in many places and the hearts and minds of society are slowing getting there, too, and then it just blows up as another trend. Again, before the naysayers start chiming in, I have gay friends that HATE this “trendy” thing, too. Just a bunch of wannabe snowflakes starving for attention.
On top of it……she is flunking FOUR courses. She still has her electronics, access to Daddy Taxi, and still has her activities. That’s a whole ‘nother topic. I’m pissed as hell at FDH with how he is handling this. She got one F up to a B by turning in her homework. Claims she’s bringing up the others, too, but we will find out soon enough. She did ZERO studying over break for finals and ZERO studying over the weekend. We had early out last week for snow and one of her tests was rescheduled for today. Study? NOPE.
So, I’m all up in this business now. And suddenly FDH is all back-peddling about our rules about kids living in the house after high school…… Go to school or a trade full-time AND work part-time or out the door you go. Oh no. Now it’s all “she might need a couple of years to figure things out”. Oh HELL NO. So we argued about it and now I’m all up in SD16s bizness now. Told her if she wants to straighten out and get her head back into school, I will fade into the background. Until then, get used to me being your shadow.
If you’ve read this novel, I thank you. My head is exploding over this crap.