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Too bad DH and BM, I do NOT want BM HERE at MY house

Butterflykissesandlicks's picture

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Tough shit to both of them. DH is crying about the "gas" to get to BM and sugarstep dad to pick-up SS8 this weekend and of course, BM is ALREADY back in town on her emailing and calling rampage. SINCE nobody can lock a freaking door here or just pull up to the driveway and "let" SS8 out of the car WITHOUT BM waltzing in to my home without knocking, I had to tell DH off and tell him that I do NOT want her here anymore. DH will have to go over to their house and do the exchanges. He is crying about it, but tough. Maybe if you don't have the gas in the first place, you should think about that before agreeing to anything in the first place??? I despise this BM and her games. She is totally making it hard on SS8 and this family. It is NOT really SS8, it his his PITA moron, goldigging mom.

I have every single right to demand this and they can play their games away from my home and BS1 from now on. They will both get the message that I am fed up. This has been YEARS worth of drama., NO MORE. Wink

Oh yes, and I had to inform DH what all of them were doing on their vacation, and he started saying, "That is more detail than I need to hear," in regaqrds to BM and sugar step dad honeymoon. Why would that even phase him? Umm, you are married again and it has been years and years now? get over it, both of you. Have some damn respect for your new spouses. grrr*

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added: I personally think this is an ego issue. DH feels more like a "man" when BM comes over literally begging for baby daddy time and DH feels stupid going over to her husband's house, ... they both are power/ego tripping causing damage to other spouses here. NOT HEALTHY.

Butterflykissesandlicks's picture

Tell my DH that!!! Jeez, I am running around with BS1 and can't make sure the damn door is locked. YEAH, you would think he would know better? It doesn't matter, if BM came here, she would stand in the driveway for 30 mins. running her trap while SS8 hung all over her in the FRONT yard. :O

Butterflykissesandlicks's picture

They can do all of that over at sugar step dads place from now on and embarrass him.

Willow2010's picture

It is NOT really SS8, it his his PITA moron, goldigging mom.
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This sounds more like a DH issue. He is allowing this to happen to you. Why are they so afraid of the BM.

Butterflykissesandlicks's picture

They used to do that, years ago. Maybe they could do that again? I'm just so tired of being on guard here, you know? JUST because BM lived here, years ago does not give her the right to invade or barge in MY home. There is a toddler here now too?!

Butterflykissesandlicks's picture

Exactly! Thank you! I would think that they both should be respecting the others homes and spouses, children?

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Oh yes. The only one now who can fix this mess for good is DH. Until he does such, BM will think that she can play her games because he is weak/scared/afraid,

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BM is like blackmail. IF you don't want BM, you can't see your kid... it is so wrong.

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DH is a moron too. The bitch is snooping, looking at papers in the office, etc.? Hello? She is trying to fuck you over again, and you are blinded by this kid that is up her butt, as she is "looking" around?

I don't give a shit what the gas will cost, not here, anymore. DH should have made it clear about her dropping SS8 off. So what if she is pissed off? I am supposed to be on defense and miserable so that BM does not get ticked off? NO.

Butterflykissesandlicks's picture

That's great. It is confusing to SS8 . He does not even remember living here with his dad but remember his mom and him living here. So, we have an exchange and I am sure that an 8 year old would want his mommy and daddy together, in the same home without BS1 and the wicked stepmom? This is absurd.

Butterflykissesandlicks's picture

I think they should do this at a nearby park personally. That way, BS1 AND SS8 could play for a bit, without confusion on either of them?

Butterflykissesandlicks's picture

It helps being a mom myself, already. It is tough though on me. I want to help out but have learned the hard way, if it does not go perfect, I am the one blamed for some reason. Tough being a good mom and having to watch "other" parents play mind games.

hereiam's picture

I would not let BM in my house if she was getting ready to shit her pants. I'd say "There's a Quik Trip down the street, better hurry."

mizcece's picture

LMAO!!