Did you tell them you recently moved out because SD's behavior is so horrible? 

But i still felt you should have taken advantage of the situation then with authorities being there and said that sd behaviour was unstable, she was emotionally abusive and threatened you all physically and that you had moved out because your daughter was not safe in sd presence.

imagine if sd got aggro and physical just as cps case worker was there!! That would have been magical!

that said from now on there is no choice, the moment she is abusive and physical like punching someone or tries to hit someone, call the cops, request they remove her immediately and i’d have my phone on me at all times because when she gets physical, there will be moments leading up to her losing her shit so you should have ample time to be ready to start recording.

so if it happens again hubby has to restrain her to the ground but she came at him to punch him, this is deemed ample self defence for police. 

If hubby gets into an argument with you why cops were called, tell him off she just punched you, she is abusing this household environment and people living here and making it unsafe and you have every right to feel safe in your home.

i get that you want to support your husband but he needs to actively be trying to address these issues with sd that this shit no longer continues, that hasn’t happened.

your husband also needs to address the cps thing with his dad. His dad overreacted and pre-empted things before getting all the facts. What his dad did is enough for a child to cut off a relationship with his dad brcause he didn’t create a helpful/supportive safe environment but rather a potentially dangerous one. Imagine if your daughter was taken away because of what he did. He could justify his arse off he was doing it for the better but it would hold no weight

there are many issues needing to be addressed here. Also sd asking if cps will come over anymore, i see as her shitting herself possibly panicking because stuff got real serious but noone wanted to upset the status quo here and get these major issues out in the open.

Believe me i have threatened to walk away from hubby for far less and divorce him because he enabled and encouraged the toxic environment and disrespect of skids to continue.

there is nothing wrong with that because your spouse is not committed to you and safeguarding you but rather throwing you under a bus by ever allowing you to be in that position/situation and not actively doing anything to change things

another strpmum here posted last year that she knew her husband was afraid of the exwife and never wanted to upset the status quo and deal with more exwife drama and her banning the kids from seeing dad because she knew daddy wouldn’t go through the drama of court. So she made her husband fear her more so whatever exwife threatens exhusband with falls totally on deaf ears.

its great standing up for yourself and stabding your ground because it lets your hubby know that you will not and should not tolerate this behaviour or you’re out the door. That reality check shocks him into addressing these issues and no longer being such a weak man afraid of addressing issues with his kids because they will manipulate him by banning contact etc

we arent your parents or CPS. You don’t need to report back to us and justify your actions. All we did was give you advice based on our experiences. Whatever direction your beliefs or family lead you in is your decision. 

All I’m saying is that you need to be honest with yourself about what you are doing and why you are doing it. Don’t lie to yourself about your reasons or you’re going to find yourself in a hole you can’t dig out of. 

Based on your comment of grandpa’s “careful prayer” I am assuming you are religious. I seriously hope you aren’t living with and exposing your young child to a violent home life because of something the Bible or your church says.

You mentioned your child being scared when DH and SD get into volatile arguments. It causes your DD lots of emotional damage living in such household. Is DD his? If yes does he understand that he causes her damage? If not do you understand that you cause suffering to her by staying  there 

DH needs to stop slamming her to the ground if she hits him.  (I'm sorry, "restraining" her).  If she does that again, call the police and file charges.

It's your choice to stay or not stay, but SD is not the only problem here.

Until it happens again.   And it will   Hit the eject button!  Just sayin'