Prior to my wedding BM made my life hell. She didn't want me to come to my SS's soccer games. She confronted me at one of them to tell me that my now DH cheated on me with her. When I told her that me and my DH had talked about the accusation and everythings okay She got upset. She kept my SS out of our wedding. We got him 2 hours this christmas and she convienently forgot fathers day last year. Sometimes we love those hopefull BM crying moments.

Our BM actually did cry! After we eloped, DH called her to let her know we were married so she wouldn't hear it on the street. She cried and said, "congratulations." So fake, poor her. She destroyed her marriage and almost destroyed DH.

Yea, after me and DH got together, she wanted DH to come back and try again because of the wonderful changes he had made in himself and since he had changed and was now so loving and thoughtful that they could make it work now. He was all.....WHOA, UM NO.

She had no clue that her whiney, self loathing, lying, nasty self was the reason why they were so unhappy. My DH told me this and I wanted to hurl.

Then she started refusing to pick up the skids because it "hurt" too much to see us happy. It's been 10 years and she's more bitter today than she was then and she's STILL alone. She hasn't been able to trap a man again because her uterus isn't working anymore. Damn, the luck!

Why don't ya cry baby, cry baby...cry baby cry!!!!!!!!!!!! LMAO

I bet you she did. And I bet you this won't be your first blog about her reacting to it.

I sincerely hope BM cries when we tell her. I tell BF all the time that I want him to tell her to her face to get the full reaction. I'm so evil.

Wow good for you and DH. I also love the sarcastic "Congratulation" We got one of those when BF announced to exwife that he and I were moving in together. She texted him a "Congratulations" My BF saw it as sincere, however as a woman I could feel the sarcasm.

Whateva

BM found out we got married when I sent the new medical insurance cards.

I asked SD if BM got the cards. She said yes. I asked what she said. SD let me know exactly what BM said with a little smirk and gleam in her eye.

Yeah, she wasn't too impressed. H had told BM about me when we first started dating and the last time she had him over to "see" his kids (aka free babysitting), when he left he told her that he was going to my place and that I didn't want him coming to BM's to see the skids anymore.

BM's response as he was leaving was, "You'll be back. You always are." and then let out a nasty laugh. I wonder if she's realized yet that she was WRONG!!!

"She had no clue that her whiney, self loathing, lying, nasty self was the reason why they were so unhappy."

This ^ is our BM

She still refuses to see me as more than "rebound sex" < her words lol

Unhappy--That is great! And so wierd that a lot of BM actions overlap with each other. Our BM told me that I was "one of many girls in BF's life and you won't be the last." Funny thing is, we are getting married, but we're going to elope. Neither one of us like weddings anyway AND we don't want her causing drama leading up to a wedding--because WE ALL KNOW she will. SO, I am happy for you. Its great when you know a BM can't stand for the Ex to be "moving on" and that SHE wasn't the end all be all. Oh, yeah--we're not going to tell anyone when we marry--so when she takes him to court for an AMORAL lifestyle--(yes, its illegal in my state)--BF will show the marriage papers.

My SS's BioDad cried to his mommy that he "missed his wife and kid" after my wife took the kid and moved out of state for college. He left them for his 16yo GF (when my wife was 18 and BioDad was 23), he never called them, he never visited with SS before they left the state, and THEY WERE NEVER MARRIED!!!!!

SpermGrandMa called my wife to tell her how emotional the SpermIdiot was and that he really wanted to reconcile. Of course that would have meant giving up his 16yo GF, growing up and supporting my wife and SS. That never happened.

A few months later SpermGrandMa found out that my wife was dating someone at college (me) and filed for custody of SS in BioDad's name without telling BioDad. Thus began our nearly 17yr running battle with the toothless SpermClan to protect our son's (my SS) best interests and protect him from his moron SpermClan.

For the first 10 or so years we were married the SpermIdiot would call occasionally in tears to tell my wife that he loved her and begging her to take him back. She would laugh at him and hang up. Soon after he would invariably file for an amendment of CS to try to get his CS lowered. It went up every time.

He also would regularly ask my SS "does your mom still love me" during visitations. My SS finally got to the point where he would tell his SpermIdiot that "my mom and dad have been married for XX years and they love each other very much". That would just throw BioDad in to fits of depression or anger but my SS learned from his mom and I that facts are not good or bad, they are just facts.... whether BioDad likes them or not.

If the X is in tears on a regular basis you have won the battle and will control them for the remainder of the relationship. Usually it is the one who cheats that goes to tears.

At least from what I have seen. My XW would call me periodically in tears over some drama with her geriatric executive sugar daddy that she divorced me for. I would ask why she was calling me, her answer was always "you are my best friend and know me better than anyone .... what should I do? Waaaaaaaa Waaaaaaaaa." I would tell her "I was married to you, you left me remember, what makes you think I would ever be your best friend". Then she would go to heart wrenching sobs. I would calm her down and hang up as soon as I was reasonable confident that she would not try to go to the garage to do bong hits on the tail pipe of her running car.

I should have just hung up when I heard her voice.