I told my Ex how it's going to be last night
For those of you who didn't read my blog from yeasterday,
http://www.steptalk.org/node/81705
I sent my ex some texts last night letting him know that from now on when he has requested visitation that he needs to send me a text from his mother's phone when he is at her house for his requested supervised visitation letting my know that he is there. Then, and only then, will DH take BD over to her house and drop her off.
If he wants to see see her but refuses to do this we will be following the CO where it states that I am to drop her off and pick her up. I don't get home from work until 6:30 - 6:45, when the weather is nice. Her bedtime is 8:00 pm and she needs to do her homework and take a bath before she goes to bed. That means that my ex will only get around 10 to 15 minutes of time to spend with our BD.
Now he could request to see her on the weekends that he has off and spend the whole day with her at his mothers but he won't because he'll be too busy sleeping off a hangover or partying at a bar. Gotta have your priorities right.
DH is under no legal obligation to bring BD over to visit her father. He does this for her. Since my ex can't manage to show up for his requested visitation for the last five months, except for twice this month, I will no longer allow him to hurt our BD anymore. I will no longer allow him to emotionally damage her.
I also told him that I would be taking her to see someone in regards to all of this and if he would like to show up, they usually want to talk to the parents on the first meeting, that I would schedule it on one of the weeks that he is in town. If I do not hear back from him then I will be scheduling it immediately.
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Did he respond or ignore it?
Did he respond or ignore it? My ex was like this. Left the kids hanging all the time. Then just stopped coming. They were about 7 and 12. He tried to contact them a few years ago and they both blew him off. Now he is trashing them to everyone that will listen. About how he TRIED to have a relationship and they just won't have it. GAH...makes me mad.
Good thing is, my kids are GREAT. And no "daddy issues" so far. Good luck, it sucks. My son had a hard time around the age of 10ish and my DD actually had a hard time with it about the age of 17. And by hard time, I mean...upset that they were not good enough for the asshole. But that is very over with now at the ages of 19 and 23.
I haven't heard anything from
I haven't heard anything from him yet. I doubt I will. But it's his choice. If he wants to spend more time her then he needs to show up.
I'm sure he'll be bad mouthing me to all of his friends letting them know how big of a b!tch I am and how I won't let him see his daughter. Anything to make him out to be a hero to other people. Regardless of how he can hide himself from his friends he can't hide from himself.
My ex doesn't even bother
My ex doesn't even bother with letting anybody including his mother know that he won't be there. He just doesn't show up and leaves our BD hanging thinking he might show up at any moment.