This is my first time to this site. I am so glad to read that there are others that feel like me. I am newly married to a wonderful man. He has 2 kids, ages 5 and 10 that are driving me crazy. I am a structured parent(I have a daughter age 12 and a 20 year old son in college). His exwife, lets them go wild; so when they come over our house (4 days one week, 2 days the next) I spend a lot of time disciplining. They both have ADHD (the mom refuses to acknowledge). All she does is stick them in front of the TV and let them play video games. They are unruly and unpleasant to be around.