I am new to this whole blog thing, and internet "speaking", but have come to try this in hopes to gain insight and experiences from other step parents.  As my background information shares, I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over 2 years and we have a 1 year old son together and I am pregnant with our daughter.  He has a 9 year old daughter who he has had sole custody of since she was 2.  Her mother has been in and out (out for the most part) of her life.