My SS has a brother from his mom that is a year older then my son. I do not interact with her son ever like a normal situation. BM will aww and such when BS gives SS a huge and such. I don't so the same ever. But lately when BS does something SS says "my brother can do that" I keep telling him to stop they are very different ages. I want to freak and say "your brother is behind and BS is a head it is sad that they are even close developmentally" I this morning I realized SS was doing this on purpose to piss me off.

Lately (this last week) BM's emails are normal and appropriate. Once was stupid but an appropriate topic and something we have thought of discussing. BM has started smoking again so I am guessing life is not going smoothly. I am wondering if she is distracted by some other type of craziness. The house they live in seems to be falling apart from what SS has explained to us. BM is not playing mother of the year and seems distracted. Just because I am nosy and her life is like a lifetime movie I am interested.

Today I had to drop somethings off at SS school. BM emailed DH to have him pay her back the fee she paid the school a few days ago. Smart DH asked for a receipt BM never responded. While I was at the school I asked them to look up if it had actually been paid. It hadn't I paid it and we are going to ask BM to pay us back her half. It isn't the money that is the issue it was under $20 it's the saying she paid it and asking DH for half when none of it was paid. Also, to top everything off BM said it was more then it was.

First of all thank you to all of you on here. I had never heard of disengaging before. I come from a completely normal and functional family. Shortly have hearing about it on a hear a therapist brought it up. Well I have been disengaging for BM and creeper (her husband). Well they have taken a sharp left turn to crazy town again and some how I am completely calm. The last few times she was swirling I was stressed and it sucked. This time I sit her realizing she could show up at my work (don't worry she can't get it). Honestly, it wouldn't shock me but I am not stressed about it.