:? I struggle on how to deal with issues from two different exes. My husband has 3 children from his first marriage. They are 18, 16, and 11. While I was dating my husband, the children would come over and visit with their dad on his weekends. Their mother was nice to me at that time too. They lived a little over an hour away too. Well, after my husband and I married, the children stopped coming over, and now their mom tells them what a deadbeat dad there dad is. She has even went as far as to tell them that she wished my husband and I would drop dead.