Ok, so last year we had planned a vacation with the kids. BM decided that SD needed some type of surgery, I think it was foot, anyways, so no skids. I was actually glad about it but DH wasn't, obviously.
We all (me, dh, DD18mo and my two) went to the beach for a week, it was great. We played on the beach, went to a few attractions and just had a laid back week, well somewhat.
So DH says last night, that he's planned a week's vacation at the beach for all of us this year. Mind you this is the first I'm hearing of it, he swears he mentioned it at christmas and I said that would be nice. I'm sure I said "that would be nice" as in we can't afford it but yes I would love to have a vacation tone.
DH is mad because I don't have a weeks worth of vacation. In order to get paid when I was out having DD, I had to ask for future sick leave, 6 weeks, takes 2 1/2 to 3 years to pay back because I only get 8 hours a month.
So during all the sick times, babysitter can't watch or her appointments for the last 2 years, I've had to use my vacation time. I only get 16 hours a month. Just in the last 2 months, the babysitter has not been able to watch our DD for 5 times because of someone in her household being sick. It sucks!
DH is so pissed. He says he's already asked for vacation time and what am I going to do, just not get paid for a week, like I did last year. Now let me explain last year. I had a few days of leave saved up, 3 1/2 days. DH and I didn't plan anytime out of town, so DH decides we will go down to the beach for a few days starting on a saturday. Well ok being back mid week, I'd have the time to cover, on the way to the beach he calls a friend and gets his house on the beach for A WEEK.
We were already there, what was I suppose to say. I didn't want a fight on vacation. so we had one when we got back and he had to pay his own mortgage for ONCE. First off I don't even know when he's asked off for, haven't told me
Secondly I dont have the time, so I can't go. I said just go without us. He said "how can I take 5 kids to the beach by myself". I said "dont, just take your two and go already". He's pissed. I told him "your kids don't want me around anyways, so why does it matter" He is all like "I wanted us to go as a family, all of us".
He said he knows his kids dont want me around, why must I say it, it pisses him off. Really?? Reality makes you mad, than you need to deal with your kids and their behavior. I wanted to tell him that but I was just too mad, I walked the dog outside to go to the bathroom.
The SDs make my life miserable on a weekend, why on hell on earth would I want to spend a week with these 2, seriously dude? I didn't say it but I wanted to, I really did. So now I have no idea what's going to happen.
I feel like DH is trying to be as controlling as ExH use to be. I told him from now I'll just ask him everytime I do anything for his "approval". That made him mad too, tough shit. I am not really going to do it but shit already.
If I get "forced" to do a "family" vacation, How am I going to cope with these 2 girls who hate me and just want their perfect family BM and DH back together for a damn week.