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I think my husband is not over his divorce!

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Submitted by slkastep on Sun, 03/03/2024 - 12:20am

I've been trying to figure out the disconnect.  The fixation on his past life, his kids fixation on their past life with their parents together.  But many times it's not even them together...it's him and his kids alone.  I overheard him talking to an old friend tonight at a social event...and my husband is saying, "she just filed for divorce, bam, out of the blue, no warning"

I think my husband is not over his divorce!

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Submitted by slkastep on Sun, 03/03/2024 - 12:20am

I've been trying to figure out the disconnect.  The fixation on his past life, his kids fixation on their past life with their parents together.  But many times it's not even them together...it's him and his kids alone.  I overheard him talking to an old friend tonight at a social event...and my husband is saying, "she just filed for divorce, bam, out of the blue, no warning"

My husband is angry that my daughter is dating someone of a different race.

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Submitted by slkastep on Tue, 08/15/2023 - 11:52am

They are both seniors and work together.  My husband is making it very difficult.  He hasn't said anything to her, but he's been acting like it's the end of the world to me.  Saying she's making a highe mistake and will ruin her life.  

Need a pep talk for upcoming 9 day family vacay!

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Submitted by slkastep on Mon, 07/04/2022 - 1:39pm

So, we have an amazing vacation coming up that I'm super excited about, but can't help but be nervous and apprehensive at the same time.  Blended with 3 teenagers who never really blended.  They don't argue much, but they're just kind of "blah" about being around each other.  It can get uncomfortable at times.  Then there's the miniwife issue with my 16 yr old stepdaughter.  We get along pretty good now, but her and my husband still act like a couple IMO, and she is demanding of his attention.  My husband does "try" to be aware of this, but it still seems to happen somehow.

Husband’s Ex wife is so rude to me for no reason

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Submitted by slkastep on Mon, 05/23/2022 - 1:13pm

I posted this on the guy's page, but I wanted to get the ladies' opinions, too.  My husband's ex wife is really unkind to me.  We have been married for 4 years, and she's been rude since day 1, I met her 5 years ago and the day I met her she refused to shake my hand.  They had already been divorced 2 years when I met him.  They have 2 kids together, and they live with us half the time.  I also have a daughter.  They are all teenagers.  So, his ex basically pretends I don't exist.  If I say hello to her, she ignores me.  If I say goodbye, she ignores me.

Is it just a joke or an insult?

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Submitted by slkastep on Thu, 11/25/2021 - 9:10pm

I need an honest opinion from the outside.  So my husband is a funny guy.  Very quick witted.  That's one of the things I love about him.  But, sometimes he makes jokes that seem to be at my expense.  Then when I tell him he hurt my feelings, he says he would never purposely hurt my feelings and is just trying to be funny.  Tell me what you think...so we are on the phone with his brother to wish him Happy Thanksgiving.  We are explaining to his brother that we are making homemade moonshine and limoncello for Christmas gifts tomorrow.

Am i just here to occupy time until his kids are home again?

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Submitted by slkastep on Fri, 08/06/2021 - 9:08pm

Every weekend that we don't have the kids, my husband becomes a stick in the mud!  When they are home, which is half the time, he is excited and energetic.  He is happy and talks to them with interest and energy.  He is up for anything...runs his daughter around from practice, school, friends.  He stays up until 11 or later.  Then when the weekend comes that we don't have them...he's tired, exhausted, needs to lay down.  We go for dinner and drinks, we have an empty house (finally) annnnddd he is laying in the couch.  No energy.  No special husband and wife time.  He's spent.

So tired of the "poor me" drama...

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Submitted by slkastep on Mon, 03/15/2021 - 10:34am

My 15 year old step daughter is EXTREMELY clingy with her dad and expects everything to be about her.  She just doesn't seem to understand that her dad is more than just HER dad.  He's a husband, too.  I guess it's the way that my husband and his ex treated them when they were married....he admitted to me that is was ALL about the kids.  Nothing was ever about their marriage.  As a result, his daughter has come to expect everything to be about her.  Everytime her dad and I try to spend quality time together, she gets mad.  Once I bought dance lessons for us, and she was livid cause she wasn

I want my husband to be MY best friend and partner, but so does my stepdaughter!

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Submitted by slkastep on Wed, 01/13/2021 - 1:55pm

Okay, so is she really THAT interested in him, or is it just for attention?  My husband talks to his 15 year old daughter like she is his wife.  He tells her ALL about his day before I even have a chance to talk to him at all.  She is always asking how work was.  And when he talks to her about it, she acts like she is on a date with a guy, hanging on every word he says.  She asks him a million follow up questions.  And I seriously doubt that a 15 year old girl is that interested in his job or what he talks about.  One time she asked about mold cleaning spray, and how it works.  Like she lit

I feel lonely. Wonder if it's in my head...

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Submitted by slkastep on Sat, 12/05/2020 - 12:27am

Tonight, my hubby after being out of town two nights comes home.  He hasn't seen me or his kids, or my daughter, for two days.  He sees his kids, teenagers, every other day.  They have split custody so he sees them half the time.  He said he missed me terribly and just wanted to spend time with me.  We decided to put the Christmas decorations and tree up because the kids wanted to and we didn't have alot of free time this weekend.  I felt like we barely connected the whole time.  He and my step kids spoke about all of their memories about each ornament they placed on the tree.  He barely sp