Kids’ relationship w estranged in-laws
Would you encourage a relationship between your kids and your estranged in-laws? I haven't been in contact with My DH's family for a few years now due to poor and inappropriate boundaries and sharing info w BM even though DH has spoken with them numerous times about it. They still continue to dig their heels in and insist they need to for SS12's sake. The relationship between DH and his parents (though not with his bitchy sisters) has slowly improved but he's still standing up for me and our POV. They FaceTime with my kids and have sent unwanted gifts and are trying to build a relationship with them while still favoring skid and treating BM like the DIL instead of me. We are long distance but are planning to move to their country in a few years. I don't think it's right to try to have a relationship w my kids while pretending I don't exist or that my marriage is a second rate one. If DH wants to let them FaceTime, fine, but I haven't "allowed" visits since the big blow up, nor will I be facilitating visits when we move. I mean, if someone doesn't respect you as your DHs wife and kids' mother, why let them into your home, your sanctuary. That's my view. Interested to read about others' similar experiences.