BM text me asking not to post pics of SS
Let me preface this by saying that when it comes to posting children, I am all about respecting the parents' choice to not post them on social medias. Ususally in those cases, that parents are still together or it's a joint decision. But when it comes to co-parenting and parents having differing views, it's harder to enforce something like that. I know for myself, when I had my son I leaned more towards not wanting him posted on social meida but his father (my coparent) did anyway and it was really just a matter of....I can't control what he does and I too have lightened up on that over the years by making sure to only post appropriate photos and nothing embarrassing for the child.
Anyway - BM has been fighting really hard....just grasping for straws to control what DH does during his parenting time. When shes bored, she's bothering us. WHen she's not getting attention from the married men she seduces, she tries to strike an argument with DH or seek his attention/validation. Through this we have just learned more and more to ignore her.
Recently during her visitation with SS, she had SS call DH and SS was hysterical crying. I guess SS was not listening to BM and throwing a fit about something so she handed him the phone to call DH and have DH handle "discipline him over the phone". I wasn't around when this happened and I understand that sometimes it takes a village to raise these damn kids but it doesn't seem right that DH is disciplining SS during a week he doesn't have him when he doesnt have the full picture of the situation. Just a distraught 6 year old on the other line crying and a BM saying "talk to him he wont lsiten to me". I think if I didn't see BM as this person needing constant attention and validation - that this wouldn't bother me much but I found it suspicious. I just shrugged when he told me about it.
But then later she sent him a long text thanking DH so much for being there for her during that time and helping to calm down SS, etc etc.
DH just ignored her text. TO HIM, he did it for SS, not her.
She hates when he doesn't acknowledge her texts. Fast forward 3 days later she texts me in a group chat with DH and tells me to remove any photos I have of SS off my social medias. We both collectively decided to ignore her. I don't really have pictures of SS on my socials and if he is present in a photo - its usually a family photo of us all together.
She is trying to spin this into the "safety and wellbeing of SS" but she literally has Tiktoks of SS on her public page doing tiktok trends with him, sometimes he's not even wearing a shirt. In one video he caught a lizard and she told him to put it on his nipple. Not to mention that DH's sister who is friends with BM and does not talk to DH or myself...also has photos and videos of SS on her public profile. MY stuff is private and though I chose to ignore her, I am curious as to how she's seeing shit on my socials outside of a public profile picture.
I know the solution is to just ignore ignore ignore. I will be doing that - but I just want to vent about it too. It's hard to not say something and I don't think enough people talk about that. Like what? I'm embarrassed for BM with how jealous she acts over me with a man she didn't even want. Her sleeping with married men speaks volumes to her character and I'm not surprised that now she suddenly has an issue with DH moving on with his life and having a family of his own. It seems like she takes every opportunity she can to say something about me or imply things that aren't even true. Her reality is so far from the truth. It's like she stews in her room at night coming up with scenarios in her head convincing herself that I'm this problem in her life. Sometimes if she starts something with DH and he responds, she assumes it's me and responds to him with my name like she's talking to me. Meanwhile I'm off minding my own business unaware of the conversation at all until DH tells me about it later. She just irks me. like, ew...don't text me unless there is an emergency b*tch.