Let me preface by saying how much I adore my husband. I really do. He is an incredible man and does so much for me. Loves me fiercely, is a wonderful protector, gentle, kind and generous.

His biggest downfall is he is a horrible people pleaser. It is to the point that it has become life consuming and ends up affecting our family.

He never wants anyone to be upset and will go to insane lengths to ensure everyone has what they want and beyond. He won't say no, and if he senses someone has even the slightest bit of hesitation or disappointment he starts catering to them.

I have made huge progress on disengaging from the BS that surrounds my SD12, especially in the past year.

Although there's never been "drama" between her and I, I have my fair share of opinions about her behavior, how she's been raised, her lack of accountability, etc. I've been vocal and still do express my opinions to DH in private from time to time when things build up.

Anyone else struggle with letting things get to you even after committing to disengagement? I had a moment today.

Does anyone else go through cycles where you have periods of time you can tolerate S-Kids more than other times? Then sometimes you are just absolutely DISGUSTED by them?!

I lost my dad to Colon Cancer Dec 19, 2021. Not even 5 months later my mom was diagnosed with Stage 4 Kidney Cancer (she only has one kidney.)  It's been a horribly stressful and upsetting battle for the past year and a half with all of this going on. I've been completing testing and luckily I am a kidney match- but she needs to be cancer free for 6 months until I can give her one of my kidneys. My mom is my WORLD and the best human being there ever was-an absolute saint of a woman.