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Relationships with former SKs after DH’s death

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Submitted by Picardy III on Mon, 10/19/2020 - 11:10am

This topic is (hopefully) decades down the road for me, but some recent financial planning made it cross my mind. 

DH and I are early middle age; he's nearly a decade older than I am. We're both healthy, but his family has some degenerative disease, while mine has none and tends to be long lived. So it's quite likely I could outlive him by several years.

They’re here, again

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Submitted by Picardy III on Tue, 09/29/2020 - 5:56pm

It's BM's day, but sure enough OSS and YSS come busting in the door. And there goes my skid-free night.

They're not being annoying or demanding: they just asked to hang out and watch the US presidential debate with us. They're in good spirits: YSS is playing with DD, OSS talked to me and DH about college prep, and they'll do homework and be out of my hair until the debate. I'm in my office getting work done, anyhow. No big deal, in theory.

Introduction - longtime lurker

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Submitted by Picardy III on Tue, 08/04/2020 - 8:52pm

Introducing myself: I discovered StepTalk via Internet search about 5 years ago, shortly before my marriage to DH who came along with 50/50 custody of SS13, SD11, and SS9 (ages at that time): I barely knew the SKs before the wedding, had little experience with any stepfamily situations, and wanted to prepare myself for the worst - the situations described on this site opened my eyes to all possible worst-case scenarios!