Update I think I know why BM is so salty
BM in all of her many many paragraphs to DH only asking when he can call SD this weekend, BM said "I'd rather that than cps every 6 months and years of therapist." ... We called CPS on you once, almost 2 years ago now. If someone is calling CPS on you "every 6 months" it isn't us...
But BM must think it is us and that is why she is so angry and nasty right now.
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Can you contact CPS to see if
Can you contact CPS to see if there are any active investigations in the household? I would have serious concerns if CPS is really showing up all the time. I wonder if a teacher is calling...
YEP! Already on that!
There is a request form that can be filled out by mail to request a CPS history check. Just got off the phone with child services and they will mail the number of request forms for the number of cases there are. So it is either the school or the therapist would be my guess! We definitely have concerns about that comment.
so if there are six cases,
so if there are six cases, you will get six request forms?
Yes, we will get the number of
request forms for the number of cases there are.
Wow - you will have to let us
Wow - you will have to let us know how many forms show up in your mailbox!!
I would think that if CPS got
I would think that if CPS got involved they would be almost mandated to at least inform the other bio parent..
I would contact them to check.. if they haven't.. she is just exagerating.
I called the child services of BM's state and
they are mailing us the number of request forms needed for the number of cases to our address for DH to fill out and request the cps history for SD.
But would they contact OP's
But would they contact OP's husband if the CPS visits concerned SD's sister...?
No they wouldn't but then that would
mean we can't get copies of those reports because DH is not the sister's biological parent unless the person who called did not know that and named him as the father... So that would make it even more complicated.
So in our case CPS never
So in our case CPS never contacted DH to let him know that there was an ongoing investigation of SA against soon to be second ex in regards to Spawn. The only reason DH found out was because second ex showed up at our house telling DH none of the allegations were true, we had no clue what he was talking about. When DH contacted CPS and asked why as the custodial parent he was not notified they said if he wanted to know more about it he could drive to next town over to see the open case but it would be heavily redacted, they never gave him a straight answer of why he was not notified.
CPS doesn't do that. SO got a
CPS doesn't do that. SO got a visit due to some things SS13 said to the bus driver a few years back. He was nervous that BM would find out. She didn't. Believe me, she would have used it if she had it.
I didn’t think CPS called
The other parent unless that parent is the one that made the call to CPS, even then it was a fiasco tracking down information when DH did make the report that one time
So if there
Is only one form - that's the complaint you guys filed but if more than one form - Houston we have a problem? If I'm understanding that correctly.
it coukd just be she is pissed about the one and exaggerating - I kind of hope so - cause multiple reports would def have me worried AF.
When we filed a report against her it was in a different state
and you need to file for the state which the report was in, so if we even get one form in the mail then someone made a report that was not us. When we called it was almost 2 years ago, so I don't think she is still pissed about that.
Uh, YEAH! Multiple reports is 100% concerning, so we shall see what we get in the mail next week.
I personally think someone
I personally think someone (either the school or therapist) called and BM thinks it's you guys since you called that one other time, which is why she is ramping up. And she thinks denying SD from communicating with DH will prevent any further issues of allegations. It doesn't make sense to have BM be this paranoid and aggressive if something wasn't happening at home.
Oh I agree, as soon as DH mentioned SD
has said stuff to us, she went on panic mode, which maybe in her mind solidified it was us that called CPS. We really didn't though, we just shared the information with the therapist.
Given the odd behavior of BM's new DH, this does not
Given the odd behavior of BM's new DH, this does not surprise me at all. I hope everything is ok for both the girls.
I wondered whether the
I wondered whether the husband wasn't the cause too.
Another example of the idiocy that pervades civil service.
Lets keep secrets from parents. Put the well being of kids in the hands of the marginally employable who are over worked and under qualified.
It is nothing but a money grab to employ people who otherwise would struggle to support themselves.
We presented hours of testimony from LEOs, certified foster parents, eyewitnesses, etc... to the Spermidiots neglect and abuse of SS when SS was an infant and of Spermidiot's serial statutory rape history to show none of the SpermClan had any business anywhere near children....
The judge summarized that with "I hope everyone feels better. Now I am going to do what I always do." No indication of consideration to the facts, witnesses, neglect, abuse, or anything else.
Then..... when ruling nearly entirely in our favor the robed moron on the bench shredded the Spermidiot for his gangbanger look in court, then, closed with "Any child would be blessed to have the love and support of this wonderful family."
WTF?
Which is it moron? Reality based on facts, or fantasy so you can feel like you are not being mean to the people who might vote for you? People who have to snake votes to keep their job have no business being in a position of authority over the lives of anyone. People who are not highly trained have no business in positions that can ruin the lives of quality people.
IMHO of course.