From no contact to contact every day
When BM gave DH SD's phone number almost a month ago, both DH and I texted SD. We knew SD got a phone for Christmas as did SD's teacher, but BM did not give the number until SD started spending a whole weekend at BM's parent's house because of BM's new job and said the phone was so SD could better communicate with DH by text and phone. BM said that SD had the phone after school until an hour before bed.
Well it was radio silent from SD on the phone for 3 weeks and now suddenly since Monday, SD has been texting both DH and I almost every day. SD comes to our house for 10 days of spring break this Saturday. Does BM really think we don't see through her motives of SD suddenly being able to answer us?
DH and I don't think SD as a 6 year old need, she needs a phone. Which is why we didn't even ask for the number when we found out SD "got a new phone." Plus this is the 3 or 4th "new" phone SD has received in 2 years so it has changed several times the number and was actually her sister's phone not SD's. I guess we will find out when SD gets here who's phone it actually is, but SD is not going to have near the freedom she supposedly has with the phone at BM's.
Since it is only a 10 day visit and took 19 days to get a response back, might not even let SD have the phone this visit at all, like usual. We will see how the next two months until summer visit go whether or not SD has it here and there to communicate with BM. We were fine with letting that happen in a limited and supervised capacity, but then it took until the days leading up for SD's visit to actually answer us, so clearly it is only to try and have BM get what she wants, to be able to talk to SD more when she's at our home.
Does BM really think we are that stupid and do not notice? She does the same thing with calls, all year she's difficult about it and then when it's close to SD coming here, she isn't as difficult for a few weeks and then expects us to drop everything and be a door mat for what she wants with calls. We don't have a memory of a goldfish, we are very well aware of the games and difficulties you make with calls.