Last night I had posted a blog which I had taken down because the real reason for the blog was not the topic specifically, but more about BM's flying off the handle and being unable to have a basic conversation. Since the beginning of this year, DH really tries his best to just remain factual, short and concise. Since SD is in therapy and we are unsure if SD is telling both households things that she believes will make the other parent happy, DH has been directing most concerns and not petty ones to the therapist. Or instead of asking BM, goes right to the source like SD's teacher. 

Since spring break? BM cannot seem to be civil whatsoever. For example, BM had a request yesterday and started off with accusatory language, DH responded with a completely factual response, BM continues with accusatory language and starts finger pointing, DH responds with a question, and BM goes off the deep end sending 4 paragraph messages. DH responds with factual information again and BM responds with 3 more paragraphs of finger pointing and accusations. DH then asked to call SD this weekend and he did respond with one message that addressed some of her finger pointing because she was making all sorts of crazy accusations which he shouldn't of, but he is always concerned if he doesn't say anything at all in response then it is him saying what BM said was true. This morning BM responds with 5 messages and a phone call, none of which DH has even looked at yet. 

I don't know if BM is angry we bought a house? But it feels like ever since we did, she cannot have a civil conversation about anything and is nasty from the start. 

***EDIT: BM said in her accusations that he might not believe her, but these issues have arised in therapy and maybe he would believe a licensed professional. So DH and I emailed the therapist this morning asking if there were updates about SD's therapy that he was not informed about and if she could share the information with him that SD's mother said she had. The therapist responded back saying "I am unsure what you are referring to" and goes on to say that since SD's therapist is still on maternity leave she has only been getting to know SD and working on coping skills and working through frustration. If anything changed or any concerns happened, she would inform him.... Well surprise, surprise BM is a total liar. DH then responded to her apologizing if his email seemed accusatory and how it arised, plus saying how he does not like to bring co-parenting drama into it and distract from helping SD.