2.5 Weeks Out from SD Visit
So naturally, BM is trying to be extra nice and overshare information. As if DH forgets all the shennigans from the past 6 weeks between spring break and summer, plus the 7 months before that. SD who hasn't texted a word or returned a phone call since she got back to BMs 6 weeks ago, magically texted both DH and I some emojis on Saturday one time after we asked SD if she got our audio message during our video call. The message was just congratulating SD for graduating kindergarten.
Since this past Friday, BM sent a few pictures of SD from her kindergarten graduation per DH's polite request. We did not go since we weren't even sure SD would be graduating kindergarten until last minute and it was 1:00 pm on a Friday two work days before DH's last day at his old job. Then today she sent two photos from SD's last kindergarten field trip Bm has sent more photos of SD in the last 5 days then she sent in the last two years.
Sounds like BM is on her classic game of trying to look like she communicates so well and is so easy going because she wants DH to say yes to any and all of BM's requests this summer. BM ALWAYS tries to get control when SD is here. It usually starts the day SD flies to us trying to tell us when/how often she will call SD and when/how often SD will use the cell phone she makes sure to point out that she pays for. When DH reiterates that he doesn't try to control her household and she will not control his, BM always tries to play it off that is not what she is doing. B***h please, your words are not requests or asks, it is demanding/controling language. It has never worked in 6 years, why would it work now?
Not looking forward to the drama of the phone/phone calls BM causes EVERY time. We do not have a phone schedule in place in the CO and DH/I deliberately do not/have not wanted one that we need to live our lives around. Especially with the 3 hour time difference and the limited time we see SD every year. What makes me even more frustrated with it all is knowing how it is all a show trying to make her look good.
Part of me wishes DH would say the day before SD comes "I know you have been faking nice for weeks to try and get me to agree to whatever you want with phone calls/SD's phone, but we both know I have caught on to your game. It hasn't worked in 6 years, so can we skip the drama this time and just do what we have been doing for years in scheduling it a day or two in advance? Thanks."