I am trying. I am trying really hard to keep my mouth shut...I just don't know how long it'll last.
I took Friday off from work. I had a dental procedure done and then spent a little bit of my afternoon doing some Christmas shopping for the kids. And for the kids I mean, my BD18, BS17 and yes SD18. I wasn't very successful and only found a shirt for BS17 and 2 sterling silver rings. One for BD and one for SD. They are not the same, cleary 2 different styles. So really, I didn't get too much accomplished.
When DH arrived home I told him I didn't really see a whole lot out there to get and instead of buying crap I am planning to just give the kids money. This again is also my way to avoid the nonsense, last minute spending by DH on SD18. So Saturday we're out and about running errands. DH brought up SD and Christmas. Stating he feels awkward around her, but feels HE needs to be the one to step up and fix things between them. I didn't know what to say. I agree with this to some degree, but I also know SD18 has not made a single effort to apologize or redeem herself in any manner for what she did and everything she has put our family thru. She has continued the same lazy, selfish attitude on life and school. Absolutely nothing has changed, but I also know she is an environment that will not encourage a change and that is something I or DH cannot do anything about. I have encouraged DH for MANY years that he needed to work on his relationship with SD. Take her to lunch, go to a movie. Without me. I always felt it would help them tremendously. But it never happened. I encouraged this when she returned. Never happened.
So anyway...the conversation continued into what he would get her for Christmas, he said "I always get her something that has meaning.."
WHAT? And this is where I stopped talking, looked out the window and rolled my eyes in my mind. A gift with meaning?? Hmmmmm..
You mean the diamond pendant you gave her last year that we never saw again? Or the 40 inch TV for her bedroom that she never watched because it didn't have Netflix on it? Or the laptop that she said she wanted for "schoolwork", that ended up becoming her social media device when she got her phone taken away and DH didn't have the brains to figure out she was still on social media using it in secret? Those "meaningful" gifts? Give her money, let her blow it on stupid shit and call it done.
Christmas cannot come and go fast enough for me.