Well $7000 down the drain because dh doesn't understand that just because bm can not give sb everything we can does not make her a bad bm. Now don't get me wrong dh in my option should have sd all the time bm has issues but dh can't prove them. Sd states she likes it how it it is she is 11. Leave it alone quit putting the rest of us out because you feel bad for your kid. Oh yah not to bring up the judge hates you.