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Submitted by MineAndYours on Sat, 09/17/2016 - 4:24pm

Just wanted to post an update on our visit with the lawyer. It was good to get some legal advice and it tells us how to proceed.

First and foremost it's always better to settle out of court. DUH....

If BM won't settle for an agreement then.....

In a nut shell we would have to pay full CS as per the Federal Guidelines for SD15 plus extra expenses, unless we can prove undue hardship, which is very very hard to do.

Lawyer says there are two parts that the judge would look at. To prove undue hardship you must show two things:

Obligations to Skids...

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Submitted by MineAndYours on Tue, 09/13/2016 - 10:47am

Do I, as a SM, have any obligations (be it financially, morally, etc.) to my Skids? And vice versa...does DH have any obligations to my bios?

ABSOLUTELY NOT!

However, DH and I decided that we would present a untied front...there would be no his and hers..just ours. It was pretty idealistic at the time as we thought we could blend both our kids. That didn't happen...but we still are united...just in front of his kids..and in front of mine...never all together.

Mediation appointment a bust

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Submitted by MineAndYours on Fri, 09/09/2016 - 2:15pm

DH had his mediation intake appointment today...

BM wants full CS for both SD15 and SD20. Lawyer appointment on the 14th. We expected this but still need to know what is the expectation for SD20. Every bit of research I've done says that it's a case by case judgement...based on past academic performance, ability to work, student loans available, and the education plan before divorce.

Nudging FH to make some changes

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Submitted by MineAndYours on Thu, 12/10/2015 - 7:43am

So last night we go to SD14 Christmas concert. FH asks if I am going..I said if you want me too. His answer is I want you to go wherever I go. My response is well you have to talk to the SKs and see what they want because I really don't like going where I"M not wanted. I brought up SD19 choosing to have her birthday lunch with just her father (first time in three years because she was mad that I had her blocked on Facebook) and FH going along with it. When we started the relationship our agreement was to present a untied front for special events. He broke that agreement.

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