Bio mom sabotage?
So my disengagement is going well....so far. Anyway I wanted to ask advice on bio mom behaviors. For fathers day of 2018 bio mom dropped skids off with a homemade fathers day card (from her, no kids present on card) and said it's tradition.....?? Oldest kid when I started dating DH was not even 2 yet.... how much of a tradition is it really??!
So for DH birthday she gave him a painting the kids made, I'm not talking a piece of paper, it was a fucking billboard from the dollar store, painting was cute, but then she wrote ALL OVER IT!!! "Happy birthday Daddy! Love your babies!" And then write their names.... as if I would ever hang this monstrosity in my house! The kids painting, awesome....her writing all over it....not. How would you take this?
Christmas we have a place to see Santa and an elf store, no adults go in the elf store and kids can buy for who they want, most things cost fifty cents. DH gets a present from the elf store from his son, it's a chalkboard with carved wood around it, completely appropriate and cute. Not appropriate is bio mom gets DH a gift and when he goes outside to get the kids on Christmas Eve night, she tries to get him to open it outside so she can see if he likes it!!!! WHAAAAAAAT??!?!?!?! He refused and brought it inside... I'm glad he did, but he should have said "I appreciate the thought, but this is inappropriate " and gave it back.
He wants to re-gift it rather than give it back! I want him to give it back to her! He wants me to put her in her place, I want HIM to put her in her place, otherwise I feel like she will continue this behavior just to get under my skin! If you have any experience in this situation, please share your mighty wisdom with me because I am close to just smashing this womans face in and saying "FUCK IT ALL!!!"
Other than that disengagement is going great, DH hates it but I'm not a pushover and refuse to budge!