A child development expert said recently that the main reason kids are growing up to be entitled, irresponsible adults is because they never learned how to problem-solve. As parents, we step in and try to solve all their problems, but that doesn't help them or teach them how to do it themselves. He said even when they're toddlers, in a shoving match over a toy, we step in to separate and control the outcome. I know I'm guilty of that, mainly because I don't want the other Mom to think I suck as a Mom because I have an overly-aggressive child!