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Submitted by Last-Wife on Sat, 05/07/2011 - 8:00am

Facebook is slowly moving into MOY territory. Lots of skids will be posting pictures of their mothers to show how wonderful they think BM is...

I'm dying to see if Princess will change her profile. I doubt the boys will. I'm hoping Princess would be smart, and maybe post a picture of her, me and Loca Grande, from Graduation or something. I could share the spot light. But if she only posted Loca Grande, or the two of them together, i know I will feel heart-broken.

My mantra for the next 48 hours is, "I've been the REAL mom."

I was the one there for every milestone, for every scratch and scrape, for every high and low, for all the times good and bad. Loca usually just heard about it on the phone.

I was the one who was there- always have been, always will be.

Just remember, dear skids, your BM- left you, didn't want you, stole from you, sold your stuff when you weren't around, allowed horrible things happen to you when you were in her care, left you alone so she could go out, told you she wished you'd never been born, said she hated you because you look like your father, said she hated you because you act like your father, said she never wanted to see you again, said she wanted to live her own life...

And remember, I was the one there to pick up all the broken pieces of you that she left behind. Each time you went back for more...

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Yme's picture

Submitted by Yme on Sat, 05/07/2011 - 11:18am

Sad but soooooooo true!!
As a BM and as a SM I cant see how a "mom" leaves their children in the dust...Bioching at/about the "REAL" mom who did the job of "mothering" their offspring... and as a SM I have been the one there picking up the shreads that the Skids have left after their own BM's wrath.....building them back up just to have them go back for more!!!
I came to the realization long ago that: What ever Skid does that is a sucess with be because of NOTHING I have ever done and EVERYTHING that the Skid does that is a failure WILL be because of EVERYTHING I did.....sad but true.....
Get off FB and dont worry....SD will prob never ever put your pic up...you instead should just make a post to each child Bio and Skid Thanking them for allowing you to be the mom you are today....and say no more....:-)
Spend the day rejoycing in what you know.....
We SM need our very OWN DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not one shared with some so called "mothers"

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Submitted by 12yrstepmonster on Sat, 05/07/2011 - 11:32am

It's really hard to sort out feelings as a kid, to accept the faults of your parents, and allow yourself to love someone freely as a "parent"- and say I don't have to be guilty by my feelings for this person.

I watched my sb give flowers to the mothers during his wedding ceremony. He gave one first to his mother........and then another to my mother and lingered just a tad longer there. The love was felt by most there. His mother sent him away- and my mother picked up his pieces and put him back together again. His love is obvious. He makes every effort to call her and come and visit her (different states)

30 years after my "parents" marriage - my "blended" family of siblings gather around a bar table and toast our parents marriage.

We did not like the step parent for years
We did not like the step siblings for years

It wasn't until the first bar table round of drinks that each of us realized that the other set of kids, loved our parent as much as we did. And that we truly became a family.

Keep doing what you do best, because while you don't think you are making a difference, you are and you will know when they are an adult and probably not before it.