First event for SS5 with BM. She has to look like a fool
God I can't stand BM. I am so good to her kid. SO. GOOD. To her kid. I enjoy being in his life and helping BF take care of him. And he loves me. I've never done anything negative to her, ever. Even though she's emailed me at WORK with passive aggressive statements, I was still very polite and said I want to stay out of her and BF's dialogue. She constantly belittles BF and nags him to parent in very specfiic ways. She's so easily set off with abusive language and threats and crossing boundaries that I told BF we need to pull back on how much we interact with her. We don't need her dictating to us how we should run our household.
When he said he wanted to go with email only and not use What'sapp any longer, she threatened to take him to court. Like she always does when she wants to get her way. He finally stood his ground and said no, we can do email or OFW or a combination of the two. Let me know what you decide. She responded saying she needs to be able to text for time-sensitive issues. She suggested that since I probably feel insecure, she could do a group text message to include me. I hate how she's allowed to talk so much sh!t about me and to BF, but I can never say anything back since I'll look like the monster. I already told her I don't want to be involved because this is between BF and BM, and I shouldn't forced to receive all kinds of abusive messages. BF has finally understood that her over-communication is not for SS5's well-being. It's for BM's indulgances.
Yesterday SS5 had his last basketball game on BM's day and SS5 asked if we were going to be there. It made BF sad and he really wanted to be there. Even though I can't stand the woman, I do want to support important events because it means the world to SS5 when he sees us show up. So we went and I was nervous as hell. This was the first time we all went to something like this. I was very kind to BM's family who was there, and they were kind to me too. BM was pissy, gave me dirty looks, and at one point when SS5 was upset after a game and me and BF went to console him, she sprinted past us, almost ran into me, and barked "I GOT IT." It's just so frustrating and sad how much she makes all of this about her and not her kid. She wouldn't care that me and BF would have been able to console him. She wanted it to be because of HER.
I'm just reflecting on how proud of myself I am. I really didn't want to go, but I did to support SS5 and BF. I went with a genuine smile, held back my emotions, and was comlpetely non-confrontational. BM really looked erratic and I think her immaturity stood out since everyone else was able to be cool. As I was saying bye to her family they gave me hugs, I automatically gave BM a hug too to be nice since I felt like there was a spotlight on us. It made me laugh at how much she recoiled and wouldn't say bye back to me. There is literally NO reason to dislike me since I've been sooooo removed, and such a positive role in her kid's life, other than she's jealous her ex is with someone else.
What are your all's experiences like when you go to events with all the parents there?