Looking for thoughts on "sharing" things
My family was the type to share belongings, but also being respectful by asking for permission, taking care of it, and making sure to put it back where it belongs. Since I moved to this island to be with my SO, I found out he is quite entitled to my things (and in general). I feel like there are certain things that are assumed you always share when you're a couple living together and don't need to ask every time, such as if I bought our pots and pans, or if his parents purchased the bed we sleep on, we don't expect permission. On the other hand, when his son wants to use my Nintendo Switch, I have personal boundaries around it and I think that's understandable. It isn't a day-to-day necessity. I actually didn't have a boundary around it at first, but after SS6 was forcefully putting games in and out to where it doesn't work right, I said SS6 cannot use it if I'm not around and when I am, he needs to ask permission. (It was a gift to me from my sister so it is sentimental, plus they are very hard to get a hold of these days since quarentine.) My SO was angry at my boundary and pushed back on this in front of SS. He was upset he couldn't give "his prince" something he wanted. (the kid has his own Nintendo Switch, not one, but TWO, one with us and one at BM, but his cannot connect to the TV). He also has his son use my iPad to supplement going to school. I don't expect permission on that but he just acts entitled to that and any of my things.
ANYWAY. My issue is actually about my SO's car. I sold my car to move to this island so I don't have one of my own. We hardly need a car these days since we mostly work from home. I do need to go in to my office a couple times per week since there are hard-copy documents I need to evaluate. I work 10 minutes away, and SO works around the corner AND his employer provides a private shuttle. He changes his mind about whether he "gives permission" for me to use his car based on his mood. He tells me to buy my own car, but it seems so ridiculous he doesn't want to share. I have offered to give him money to contribute to the payments and insurance, but he says he said it isn't about the money. I usually fill the gas tank
Basically.... am I the a-hole? Am I unreasonable? It makes me feel so resentful that I feel the give and take is imbalanced. I feel like he does this power struggle with the car as retaliation from the stupid Switch. On top of everything else that comes with being a step mom.... I feel taken advantage of.