So DH attempted to guilt trip me with how it's my fault that SD cant do every single extracurricular that she might want to (and she doesnt even want to do them so I dont know why this needs to get brought up in the first place). He said that if I wont bring her to them then he would have to take work off or bring her to a daycare that will bring her to them. I then pointed out that that is the exact same situation it would be if I wasnt around at all so obviously it has absolutely nothing to do with me. And actually she has gotten to do more because of me being around since I have been willing to bring her to and pick her up from some activities. And then he sat there flapping his mouth like a fish with nothing to say. I'm getting really tired of being the scapegoat and expected to make up for SDs situation that was created by him and BM. Also of the double standards between her and the other kids and the fact that somehow I'm supposed to do everything for her that I do with my kids in half the amount of time. She already has a mom doing that with most of her, just because it isn't on DHs time doesnt mean it doesnt count. Also, why on earth would I want to act like a mother to a child who is constantly making it clear I'm not her mom and snottily makes sure to tell anyone that who mistakes me for being her mom that I'm just her stepmom in a completely disgusted voice.