it's been 9 years Since SD(17 then) had her following out with DH and moved BM full time and hasn't spoken to him since. There's a 17 year age gag between DH and I and a 13 year gap between SD and I. I never tried to parent his daughter. I tried to be her friend and we got along great until she decided she hated my guts. She loved DH but hated me. I got involve with DH shortly after he left BM but we didn't have an affair. SD and I got along great. I only tried to help her become more independent but I guess it came off the wrong way.