frustrated-vent-visitation schedule horrible this year
Went to the doctor, long story short I am now stuck in a boot until Feb 3rd, my tendons are getting worse and not better. Boss is putting me in another department next week, he seems to think I can pull product by wheeling myself around on a office chair. Not too sure how this is going to work since not all the product is on the bottom shelf. I'm also supposed to get a ziplock bag and fill it with snow every 1/2 hour and ice my foot because we have no freezer available for ice. But I'm not supposed to walk on it. Sure, no problem?? That has not been possible.
Visitation this weekend. Yay. Just went over the calendar and filled out all the visitation days this year and the schedule is f'ked once AGAIN. The month of May he has SS for only 8 days because BM gets Memorial Day weekend for her holiday and of course Mother's Day, both of these fall on Dh regular scheduled weekends. Then June not only do we have him EVERY WEEKEND and two weekdays every.week. but we also have him the entire first week of July and another full week on top of that with only a two day break for the other two weeks.
This only happened two other times and both times BM threw a fit but refused to work together. She called constantly guilt-tripping DH the month of May for not taking him on days he wasn't supposed to, then when we had him for most of June and July she went nuts because she said she "got no time with him"...yet she refuses to swap any days or a weekend to even things out at all, even when DH brought it up in May. This heavy schedule also effects our finances because it means DH can't work any overtime in June/July unless someone watches SS, and he is also having to do all the driving to and from BM so extra gas.
SS birthday falls on DH weekend but its BM turn, so he gets to pick him up at 3p.m on Friday, drop him back off at BM 4p.m. Saturday, pick him back up at 8p.m. on Saturday, then drop him off AGAIN at 5p.m. on Sunday...two drop offs in one weekend then we get to pick him up at 3p.m. on Monday for Monday's regular visitation. I have no idea who thought this schedule was a good idea but I hate it.
If DH pays my portion of the mortgage this month and next month he will have paid me back what he owes me. He technically owes me an extra $800 on top of that but I'm giving up. I've warned him about the incoming summer schedule and told him he has to work more to make sure he can cover the extra food/utility expenses that we are going to incur because of this. If an extra 8 visitation days doubled our electric bill I can't imagine what half the month is going to do. Also Dh job is making him be "on call" for a full week every two months. This might not sound like a big deal but now he's mad at me because I told him I don't know how my work schedule will fluctuate so he better figure something out if his "on call" falls on a heavy visitation week. I think June/July I'm just going to work on my gardening and building my pantry off the breakfast nook in the kitchen. Keep busy, disengage. I know this is what happens when you marry someone with a kid, I guess I was dumb enough to believe that since last years schedule felt more even that this years would too. Please no negative comments, I'm just frustrated in general. As if DH doesn't have enough financial problems lets increase the driving and schedule and food costs and...by all means. CS stays the same, but our costs increase with the extra time. I wish liquor stores delivered wine.