This is my first time writing and I must admit I feel a little self conscious, but I am at my wits end and could use a little advice. I live with my partner of 7 years and her 17 and 12 year old BDs. I have 2 adopted children of my own who are not here all the time (from a previous relationship) My 17 year old SD is a straight A student, has a job is very active in school and a good kid. She has been living with us fulltime becasue she can;t stand being at her BFather's house. Unfortunately she is a slob.