DH had the YouTube/TikTok chat with SD
Last night DH had a chat with SD about her YouTube account. He explained how we overheard SS friend mention it and we easily found her full name on YouTube and saw her entire channel content.
Overall I think it went well. As soon as SD realised she isn't in trouble and it was DH expressing his concerns she relaxed a bit more and took it all in. He asked questions and about BM's involvement and said BM does know and uses her email address. Apparently BM 'approves' what she posts. DH shook his head and said he doesn't approve and he explained why.
Went through the language, the sexual referencing of her kissing/seducing looking poses, recording SS in his underwear, the dancing and singing song material, ect not being age appropriate for the public to see. He explained even Nan (MIL) can see.. how would you feel her looking at it? She freaked out and he said well you made it public so the entire family, friends, friends of friends can see it.. and share it without any of her knowledge or control. He explained once you put yourself on the internet people can save and download your videos and pictures. Essentially, it's up there forever.
We talked about dangerous people and SS sat down at this point and was shocked to learn the twisted people out there. We talked about my friend and SD and SS was really shocked that grown men could do that to young girls boys.
DH wrapped it up by saying he cannot control what BM exposes to her, but as her father he has a right and responsibility to protect her and educate her about these things and unfortunately it's come sooner than expected. He explained this information about dangerous people and the dangers of internet being explained to her at 8 is actually difficult for him as she is not mature enough to understand it.. hence why she is too young to have the account.
He explained he will tell BM he is aware of the account and they had this chat. He can only ask that she do the right thing and not upload anymore content and wait until she's old enough to do so. We also asked why she wants to post her content and she shrugged and I gently asked her 'is it because of the likes and attention you might receive? You watch pretty young girls do the same thing and want to be like them?' And she nodded and said yes which is a typical young girl mentality. Just way too young to have BM encourage that yet.
What he didn't tell SD is he is going to ask BM to shut the account down in the best interest of SD's welfare. We know BM only does these manipulative things to be seen as the more fun and 'encouraging' parent to keep SD enmeshed with her. SD and SS both confirmed they deleted their tik tok accounts (we didn't even know SS had one??) for whatever reason. Fingers crossed this YouTube one gets deleted too.